For Your Inspiration: A Gift from Kind Over Matter and Spring

March 19th, 2010 | 4 Comments »

Spring is here! Inspiration is blooming!

I’m excited to share an incredibly inspiring project with you today.  The amazing women behind Kind Over Matter, Jenn Gibson and Amanda Oaks, invited the Spring girls (yup, that includes me!) to collaborate on a free printable affirmation gift set - just for you!

There are a total of 36 affirmations and instructions to create a gorgeous box to hold the affirmations year round. The patterns were designed by Spring’s Jess Gonacha Swift!

Create a beautiful gift for yourself and those you cherish.

The Printable Affirmation Gift Set

Wishing you a beautiful spring filled with bright days!

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Shine a Light on Your Path

March 17th, 2010 | 1 Comment »

The text below is an excerpt from my recently published book, Perseverance.

This book [Perseverance] is the result of one of my lifelong passions – a desire to help kids with life-threatening illnesses. It started when, as a young child, I became immersed in a world intrinsically different from my own. When I was six, I went with my parents to visit Camp Sunshine, a camp run by their friends. Camp Sunshine was and still is a retreat in Casco, Maine for children with cancer. Even though I had never been through cancer, I began to understand the impact of this disease at a very personal level. During this visit, I had developed a deep connection to children with cancer. Though I didn’t know it, that visit was going to change my life, and redefine my concept of courage forever.

Freed from the fear of rejection by their peers and the isolation of their hospital rooms, at Camp Sunshine children facing cancer could just be “normal” kids. From what they told me, the psychological issues faced by most kids going through cancer treatment were ubiquitous. Returning to the camp eight years later when I was fourteen, I was again overwhelmed by the strength and courage of my peers with cancer.

Returning to my “normal” life at home after the second visit was difficult. I was older, and more aware of the campers’ struggles. That year, I founded Carolyn’s Compassionate Children (CCC), an organization to help children with cancer and other serious illnesses.

CCC began as a pen-pal program connecting children who had cancer with their healthy peers. When I was fifteen, my foundation became a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization. It was a success, but I wanted to do more.

CCC has flourished in the nine [now: 10] years since I founded it. CCC has awarded 100 college scholarships to childhood cancer survivors across the nation. Currently, the mission of CCC is to improve the quality of life for young adult cancer survivors by increasing the opportunity for college access.

At the beginning of my spring semester freshman year at Duke University, I worked with a child in a documentary studies class examining childhood illness. The purpose of the class was to help a child facing cancer document his or her life through photography. Each student in the class was paired with one child.

I was paired with ten-year-old Kadeejah. I visited her at Duke Hospital every day. She smiled regardless of how she felt. She filled the bleakest days with sunshine. She loved to hold my hand. I gave her a teddy bear on her eleventh birthday, St. Patrick’s Day.

And then I watched her slowly slip away from me.

The last time I saw her, she was lying unconscious in the pediatric intensive care unit (PICU) with the teddy bear in her arms. I kissed her on the cheek and said goodbye.

I came to believe that every life has a purpose. Kadeejah and I were brought together for a reason. She taught me the value of now – this moment, today. Kadeejah spent every spare moment creating art. She never tired of these projects and as soon as she finished one creation, she went on to the next. I determined to spread Kadeejah’s passion for life to as many people as I could reach. This book is my first step toward realizing this goal.

… We all have journeys into uncharted territories that we must take alone. But I have learned that we aren’t necessarily alone. No matter how dark the moment, brave souls have already walked the same path. The purpose of this book is to shine a light on the path each of us takes.

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Kadeejah’s beautiful memory and unbelievable courage shine a light for me, allowing me to share these words with you in celebration of Kadeejah’s life, and in particular, Kadeejah’s birthday.

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To watch me read this excerpt from the book, you can see my personal video on Spring.

Please consider making a donation in memory of Kadeejah to support the Kadeejah Moore Memorial Fund. Every dollar counts.

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Tuesday Treasures: 15 Organizing Resources to Inspire You

March 16th, 2010 | 3 Comments »

“Tuesday Treasures” is a weekly series. Each Tuesday, I highlight information and inspiration related to a specific topic. This week’s topic: Organization Inspiration. With spring officially starting in just a few days, the spring cleaning bug is about to spread. Be prepared by bookmarking the list below.

Fresh

  • New video is live on Spring! During the month of March, we are talking about one hot topic: MONEY! The second video (of four) is focused on this question: How do you determine your worth & be comfortable charging it? Personally, I find this question difficult and really enjoyed the conversation about this topic – a true, authentic discussion. I hope you’ll watch the video and chime in with a comment!
  • New article on the Huffington Post: 5 Lessons Children Can Teach Us About Joy
  • Be sure to check out some of my personal favorite organizing books in my Amazon Book Store. I recently added this store to my blog and want to mention that I do earn a tiny referral fee of 4% if you purchase a book from my store. I have personally read every book that I include in the store so it’s a genuine list of “favorites.” [Note: I will always disclose if I'm an affiliate for a product.]

Organization Inspiration

  1. Real Simple - Check out the organizing section for categorized organization tips
  2. Creative Organizing – The Simplify101 blog recently named Best Organizing Website or Blog at the Organizing Awards in Los Angeles (for even more organizing solutions and ideas see the Simplify101 Organizing Tips and Articles section
  3. Organize It – An author’s blog on organizing (a treasury of information neatly organized)
  4. The SheBang – The Smart Woman’s Guide to Doing it All!
  5. Kevin Sharkey – Kevin blogs about all parts of the home, but his section on closets is wonderful for organizing tips
  6. Jeri’s Organizing and Decluttering News – A professional organizer points you to cool products, good books, interesting concepts and much more – daily tidbits to help you organize and declutter.
  7. Mint – Organize your money and accounts
  8. How to Organize Mental Clutter – Fabulous post from blog, Think Simple Now
  9. Organizing Junkie – A mom and professional organizer blogs about living a life of simplicity and order
  10. Complete Organizing Solutions – Organizing the way you live, work, and play
  11. Organize.com – An emporium of organizing products to make everything clean, neat, and easy
  12. Success Magazine – a series of online articles from some of the most well known organizing and productivity gurus
  13. Sasha Sews (Etsy Shop): Stylishly Organizing Busy People
  14. See Jane Work – The destination for office style and organization (I am slightly addicted to their products – extreme eye candy for the organized obsessed!)
  15. Russell + Hazel – The ultimate store for stylish organization (I use many of their products for my office organizing + everyday work)

Inspiring Words

“Spring cleaning is all about personal satisfaction. It is the time of year that triggers homeowners to revive their home and renew their lives.”

- Peter Walsh

Do you have any organizing resources/tips to share?

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The Hustle for Worthiness

March 11th, 2010 | 26 Comments »

To live wholeheartedly and authentically requires worthiness. It is an essential ingredient too often overlooked. We are bombarded constantly with thoughts of “not being enough” – primarily working subconsciously. And these undetected thoughts lead us to underestimate ourselves – to feel as if we are in a never ending race (opponent: ourselves). It’s exhausting and self-defeating to let these thoughts remain in control.

As I write this post, I recognize the presence of these thoughts.

- What do I know about worthiness?
- No one cares what I have to say.
- I’m just wasting my time.

These negative thoughts stem from what Martha Beck calls our social self. “The social self is based on principles that often run contrary to our core desires. Its job is to know when those desires will upset other people, and to help us override natural inclinations that aren’t socially acceptable.” She further describes the basic operations of the social self as avoidance-based, conforming, imitative, predictable, planning, and hardworking. The social self is a wonderful navigational tool; however, it must be aligned with our essential self in order to guide us in a positive direction. Your essential self is “… the basic you, stripped of options and special features.…” Its basic operations include attraction-based, unique, inventive, surprising, spontaneous, and playful.

Another way to think of the difference between these two parts of your “self” is to think of your right and left brain. Your left brain is more analytical and critical while your right brain is more creative and carefree. When we act primarily with our left brain, we tend to spiral into a cloud of self-defeating thoughts; however, when we utilize both our left brain and our right brain, we are able to let go of many of the burdens and ideals we place upon ourselves. We have greater clarity and are much better at rationalizing.

The Bottom Line: To believe that you are worthy. To know that you are good enough – regardless of extrinsic circumstances – you must recognize what is causing these thoughts to question your worth. No one measures your self-worth but YOU.

I’ll be worthy if …

Self-defeating thoughts challenge our self-worth. They break down our confidence. They maintain this powerful control until we decide to: (a) mindfully recognize these thoughts and (b) challenge them. These two steps are critical and can’t be reinforced enough within our lives.
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In a blog post encouraging individuals to dedicate this week to worthiness, Dr. Brené Brown writes:

Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone; I am enough.

It’s going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging.

So many of us have knowingly created / unknowingly allowed / or been handed down a long list of worthiness “prerequisites.”

  • I’ll be worthy when I lose 20 pounds.
  • I’ll be worthy if I get pregnant.
  • I’ll be worthy if everyone thinks I’m a good mom.
  • I’ll be worthy if I can make a living selling my art.
  • I’ll be worthy if I can hold my marriage together.
  • I’ll be worthy when I make partner.
  • I’ll be worthy when I can do it all and look like I’m not even trying.
  • and so on . . .
  • Here’s what is truly at the heart of Wholeheartedness:
    Worthy NOW! Not when. Not if. We are worthy of love and belonging NOW. Right this minute. As is.
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    The Take Home Message

    Exercise your worthiness muscle.
    Remember: You are enough.

    Giveaway

    To celebrate the release of Brené Brown’s DVD, The Hustle For Worthiness, I am giving away one copy of the DVD! Leave a comment below sharing a simple, positive thought. Comments will be closed Sunday March 14th at 6 PM EST with the winner posted shortly after.

    Wishing you a wonderful week of worthiness!

    Update: Sunday March 14th

    –> Giveaway Recipient (chosen via random.org): Giulietta the Muse

    Thank you so much to everyone who commented. I am so grateful that you shared such beautiful, authentic thoughts on A Beautiful Ripple Effect.

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    Tuesday Treasures: Begin.

    March 9th, 2010 | 6 Comments »

    “Tuesday Treasures” is a weekly series. Each Tuesday, I highlight information and inspiration related to a specific topic. This week’s focus: BEGIN.

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    … to create from a blank canvas
    … to experience
    … to take the first step
    … to take bold action (“gulp!”)
    … to start
    … to let go
    … to trust yourself

    There is beauty in being a beginner.

    Fresh

    • New video is live on Spring! During the month of March, we are talking about one hot topic: MONEY! The first video (of four) is focused on this question: How do you trust that you can do what you love and the money will follow? And of course, new video = new giveaway. Spend a few minutes relaxing today with Spring – a video conversation with four unique perspectives!

    Affirmations

    Handmade Inspiration

    Inspiring Words

    “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off your bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sail. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

    - Mark Twain

    Give yourself permission to forge beyond the resistance and BEGIN. Today.

    What will you begin today?

    {image: Jennifer Morris}

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    Create a Serenity Trigger

    March 8th, 2010 | 10 Comments »

    Learn to pause…or nothing worthwhile will catch up to you.
    -Doug King

    In our fast-paced, multitasking, day-to-day lives, we often find ourselves adrift in chaos. Within this chaos, finding our inner calm is just as important —actually more so — than completing our next task. It allows us to recharge and breathe just a bit easier. It’s incredible what just five minutes of serenity can do for your energy level and mental state.

    Now, think about how you currently deal with chaotic moments in your life. If you would like to change your current response to those chaotic moments, create a serenity trigger that will help you find a peaceful place whenever the need arises. This trigger serves as a reminder for you to take a few minutes away from what you’re doing to find serenity amidst chaos. It could be as simple as an image or a positive word/phrase.

    This trigger serves as a personal anchor to help you find serenity and return to it over and over again. It allows you to take time to refresh and refocus. These simple moments of calm will make a difference in both your attitude and energy level.

    Take Home Message:

    Find serenity amidst chaos by utilizing a serenity trigger. Indulge yourself in the beauty that unfolds within these moments of calm.

    An Example:

    My primary serenity trigger is an image of a beautiful flower blooming within a simple mason jar. Simple, yet a powerful reminder for me that much like that flower, in order to bloom, I need specific nutrients. One such nutrient: serenity.

    What is one of your serenity triggers?

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    10 Things That Make Me Happy: Lee Currie

    March 5th, 2010 | 6 Comments »

    What makes you happy? Can you name 10 things that make you happy? Try it! It’s a fun activity and I am thrilled to feature what makes the A Beautiful Ripple Effect community happy :). This guest post is curated by Lee Currie! You can read more about Lee at the end of this post.

    10 Things That Make Me Happy | ABRE

    My View1. My view
    Every morning I am greeted by an incredible view of Lake Ontario. Some days are dreary, some are spectacular, but every day greets me with a huge expanse of water and sky. I know anything is possible.

    My Kids2. My children
    They are really remarkable. To have four individuals so completely different from each other, but to have such strong character traits, is exhausting and stimulating. Watching them grow, guiding them through their choices, laughing with them every day, is more than I ever dreamed possible. It is a privilege to be their mama.

    My Morning Routine3. My morning routine
    I wake around 5AM to a steaming cup of coffee and all the goodness to be found on my google reader. I sit in the silence, the room illuminated by the computer screen and absorb all kinds of wonderful words and images from all kinds of creative and thoughtful people from all over the world.

    Hockey4. Hockey
    It never occurred to me that I would spend so much time in a hockey rink. I spend hours upon hours in rinks watching practices and games. It is one example of being pleasantly surprised by the unexpected joy we find in hockey.

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    Tuesday Treasures: Simple Beauty

    March 2nd, 2010 | 1 Comment »

    “Tuesday Treasures” is a weekly series. It is such a fun uplifting title that I can’t resist using it! I have a few snippets of information and inspiration to share with you today. This week’s focus: SIMPLE BEAUTY.


    Fresh

    • Brand new episode of Spring is live! This is the final episode focused on the topic of support. Be sure to check out the short video for your chance to win one of the amazing giveaways :). Next topic up for discussion: Money!!
    • As you may have noticed, A Beautiful Ripple Effect is undergoing a little makeover :). I was hoping to have it finished by March 1st (my birthday – big 25!), but got a stomach bug (really bad so I’ve been in bed since Wed night) — so hopefully by March 8th! I hope you enjoy the changes being made to enhance your experience on the blog. I will reveal all the wonderful people working on the changes next week – an amazing team of very talented individuals!

    Treasures

    • Online Inspiration
      • Papernstitch – A curated collection of simple, handmade goods
        • A Few Personal Favorites
          • drika. b – original, colorful, hip and practical handbags and pouches
          • Joo Joo – original illustrations bursting with color and natural life
          • The Sunday Times Market – Finds for the Vintage Minded. Serendipitous vintage, mid century and Danish modern housewares and furniture.
          • Children Inspire Design – Features eco friendly art, stationary and children’s gifts all created from using designs from original collage art made with salvaged paper. Some featured products include art prints, limited edition reproductions on canvas, wall cards and stationary.
      • A Field Journal – A blog that is a “beautiful compilation of all things old fashioned, timeless, simple and lovely.”
      • Trend Spotting :: 5 Minimalist Banners (Tara Gentile’s blog: write well, create often.)
        • I found this amazing post from one of my favorite blogs, Up Up by Julie Green – Julie’s banner was included (Congratulations, Julie!!)
      • Leo Babauta – The individual synonymous with embracing the simplicity in life and helping others (just a few… million) to do the same
    • Inspiration for Turning Knowledge into Action

    Inspiring Words

    “Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.”

    - Leonardo da Vinci

    What simplicities are you treasuring this week?

    {image: The Sunday Times Market}

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    Embrace Your Vulnerability

    February 28th, 2010 | 3 Comments »

    When we were children, we used to think that when we were grown-up we would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept vulnerability…To be alive is to be vulnerable.
    -Madeleine L’Engle

    Embracing vulnerability is one of the toughest challenges. Being vulnerable means accepting the unknown and uncontrollable. The protective walls of “perfection” are removed. And our authentic self  is fully present. While one of the greatest challenges, embracing vulnerability is also one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves.

    With all the pain and challenges in life, it would seem foolhardy to encourage vulnerability.  However, there are benefits to allowing yourself to be open to the unknown and accepting your inability to handle every situation by yourself.

    Take a moment to think of a time that you were vulnerable.

    Perhaps it was the moment when you first told someone that you loved them?  Or maybe it was the last time you experienced problems with your health?  Chances are you were apprehensive (or just plain scared) about the outcome.  Will the person you love feel the same about you?  Will your illness be treatable?  While these events leave you open to harm, they can turn out to be positive experiences.  Consider the satisfaction of knowing that you are loved in return!  Imagine your joy when you learn that you will recover!

    If however your vulnerability leaves you wounded, there are still lessons to be learned.  Emotional and physical pain can often be the impetus for positive personal change and improvement.  In addition, you will likely find yourself surrounded by an unexpected and kindly support system that you may not have realized existed.

    Being vulnerable requires trust and faith that, despite the outcome, you will be changed. Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness.  Letting your guard down and opening yourself up to whatever comes is a testament of true strength.

    Don’t deny your vulnerability – embrace it. It is proof that you are a caring, involved, and strong individual!

    I am not a person who likes to be viewed as vulnerable – I usually prefer to be a portrait of strength, stability, and independence. My experiences, however, have taught me that there are times that it is necessary and beneficial to let down my defenses and allow myself to be loved by my support system.
    -Jamie Saunders (Perseverance)

    • Thought-Provoking Questions
      • How do you embrace your vulnerability?
      • What words do you associate with “vulnerable?”
      • What lessons have you learned about vulnerability?
      • Do you feel that crying is a sign of strength or weakness?
      • Do you fear feeling vulnerable?
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    10 Things That Make Me Happy: Ross Kinney

    February 26th, 2010 | 1 Comment »

    What makes you happy? Can you name 10 things that make you happy? Try it! It’s a fun activity and I am thrilled to feature what makes the A Beautiful Ripple Effect community happy :). This guest post is curated by Ross Kinney! You can read more about Ross at the end of this post.

    10 Things That Make Me Happy | ABRE

    Irish Snug Running Club1. Irish Snug Running Club

    The Irish Snug is a free running club that meets on Thursday nights for a social 5K run. After each run the Snug serves free pasta and salad to all of the runners. The highlight of each run is the running shirt ceremony where a runner that has completed ten runs received a free and highly coveted Irish Snug technical running shirt. I look forward to running with my daughter Laura, her boyfriend Nate and the occasional run with my great nephew Keegan. Keegan (3 years old) is one run away from receiving his running shirt. I treasure each one of these runs with Laura.

    Panera2. Drinking Ice Tea at Panera

    I love the atmosphere at Panera Bread. I enjoy taking my laptop or a book to Panera and I can sit there for hours just surfing the internet or reading a book or the newspaper. The food is awesome, the staff is always friendly. It is a great way to spend a Saturday morning.

    Playing golf with my son3. Playing golf with my son

    Adam and I played together in a scramble golf tournament last summer and on one hole, he just pounded the ball past me and the other two people in our foursome. It was a really a special time for me to see him surpass me. I was much older before I could out drive my Dad. It is just awesome for me to see what an outstanding young man he is becoming.

    Sunrise4. Sunrise

    Sunrise is my favorite time of the day. I love being able to watch the sunrise when I am out running. Every sunrise brings the promise of a new day filled with limitless possibilities.

    Snowshoeing5. Snowshoeing

    I just started snowshoeing last year. It is another great way of spending time outdoors and it is a great way to spend time with my family.

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