Posts Tagged ‘"aha!"’

Find Your Links and Feel Good

February 6th, 2009 | 8 Comments »

Feel Good List

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On the internet, we are accustomed to seeing links everywhere. We often click them to go further into a topic. By nature, we’re curious — so… we click the links, which are like sealed boxes, and experience instant satisfaction. When we click on a bad web link, we can easily click back and voila problem solved. However, the links within ourselves are not underlined and color coded. We can’t see them — so when we get stuck, it can be difficult to pinpoint where the link exists.

Before I typed this blog post, I wrote it on a piece of paper with a pen. I can’t think when I type. I’ve always seen this as a huge waste of time since writing long papers by hand can take a ton of time! I’ve been writing a lot recently and have noticed my hand gets tired after awhile and I stop writing for a few moments to let my hand rest. And in those few moments, I often come up with fresh ideas or the missing component of my argument. Just a few moments, when I rest my hand, may be a critical component of my writing process. I mention this little “aha” moment because when we feel stuck or uncomfortable (no link in sight), it is often due to something that seems very minor, such as sitting in one direction versus another direction or using a pen versus a keyboard. When we think in a logical, structured way, we can easily miss the important details. To recognize these little details, we must tap into our right-brain’s thinking style. Until recently, I neglected to engage my right-brain’s treasury. Exploring my creative side has given me more tools to examine life from different perspectives.

Bridging the gap between left-brain thinking and right-brain thinking, Julie Green has created “Feel Good Lists.” Don’t be fooled by the name, it is much more than a list. It is a powerful tool for self-change.

How often do your “regular” to-do list items trump your personal items?

Often, we (myself included) focus little on ourselves and then when we do we feel guilty that we didn’t complete items two and three on our “regular” to-do list. Rationally, it doesn’t make sense. Saying, “I feel good today,” should be a high priority in our lives. It sounds easy enough so why aren’t we doing it?

Because it’s not easy.

We’ve heard it a million times: action – action – action. We need to take action in order to change. And that is 100% true.

However, it’s in this leap from “thought” to “action” that we often get lost.

Why? Well, our webmaster has quit and our links are gone. Yikes. We need to create the links. This requires our logical left-brain and creative right-brain to work together.

Thought: “I want to feel good.”

That’s a pretty lofty goal so where do we even start? We need to define the sub-goals. In order to define your sub-goals, you have to really think about the specifics and ask yourself, “What do I need to do so that I can feel good?” For example, you may create three sub-goals, such as: practice yoga, express gratitude on a regular basis, spend more time with family.

Now, you have established specific goals to “feel good.”

And that’s where the “feel good lists” come in. Utilizing the unique structure of the feel good lists, you can tailor your list to your specific goals. You establish actions to do on a daily and/or weekly basis to help you along the way. Going through the thought process of establishing feasible actions can lead to some wonderful soul-searching and new creative outlets. On most occasions, you’ll have to dig deep to find the all-important link.

Establishing a list of “feel good” items creates structure (making your left-brain very happy!) and accountability.  Through these two key ingredients, structure and accountability, your goal remains in focus.

So now what? I believe the next step should always be “clear” and “simple” — note my username: clrsimple [my initials: clr]

Below are a few clear and simple ideas.

Feel Good this Weekend!!

Carolyn

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Feel Good List (on Etsy)

Simplify101 Workshop — any of the workshops will help you through the thought process and taking action!

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Think.
- Tap into your right-brain.
- Think creatively about what you want and what steps you need to take.
- Check out 100 ideas from Keri Smith

Trial and Error. You don’t need a perfect action plan. You just need to take action. Re-evaluate along the way and tweak your method as needed.

Actively look for connections — you never know when the “aha” link is going to occur — often during the most unexpected times.

What I Don't Know for Sure

January 27th, 2009 | 3 Comments »

ZenRocks

Mindfully practicing authenticity during our most soul-searching struggles is how we invite grace, joy, and gratitude into our lives.  — Brené Brown

I am in such a weird place in my life. I wish I could press the fast forward button just a bit to speed up this painful, yet necessary period of change and growth.

Most days I get lost in my work, which can be both good and bad. Today, I just felt lost. I feel almost as if I’m living two parallel lives — strange, I know.

I will be the first to tell you that I am way over committed. And I’m working on that — but the struggle I’m facing is figuring out why I’m over committed. I have always been an academic and loved everything about school, research, and especially the thought of becoming a psychologist; however, I feel like that passion has been drained. I’m trying to regain it, but seem to continually be hitting walls. Without Sarah Hope, a fellow clinical grad student and blog reader– hi Sarah!, I probably would not be in the program anymore. Sarah Hope has been an incredible friend and has unbelievable passion.

Where has my passion gone? Is it because I’m at a new school– the whole transition thing? Is it the lack of support from those who should be providing me with support and guidance (no names mentioned!)? Is it the constant pressure of not making a mistake since mistakes aren’t taken too lightly?

I know the passion exists because I feel it deep down, but there’s something about the current situation that is draining it.

It’s very complicated and confusing so I’m wrestling with all of these questions and waiting for an “aha!” moment.

While this period of uncertainty feels awful, I can tell how much I’m growing as an individual. So whatever the outcome it’s been a positive experience. I suppose that’s what I’ve learned from all of the cancer survivors I know. Cancer is definitely not an easy journey and yet I can’t recall one survivor who has wanted to relive their life without cancer. And so they persevered. I will do the same.

I just read a new blog post by Brené Brown and had to jot down my thoughts. That would be the “beautiful ripple effect” in action :).

An excerpt from Brené Brown’s post, The Kindness of Strangers:

When we want to be honest about our tender places, we often have to push past the tapes that say, “Don’t let them know you’re struggling! They’ll think less of you. They’ll feel sorry for you.” Those fears are confirmed when we get sympathy instead of empathy and judgment instead of compassion.

When I write about the dark places and the hard times, I’m so grateful when you respond by connecting with your own struggles and your own vulnerabilities. When I write about the joy and grace in my life, I’m inspired when you share your own moments of greatness with me. I’m also grateful when we can laugh together. That’s how compassionate communities are built (on-line or next door).

The opposite of vulnerability is not strength. Vulnerability is strength. And sometimes the kindness of strangers is exactly what you need to remember that you’re not alone.

Thank you for helping me remember that I’m not alone. Is anyone else going through a soul-searching struggle? Has anyone been through a soul-searching struggle and could provide some insight?