Posts Tagged ‘Lists’

My Mighty List

October 13th, 2011 | 13 Comments »

While I’ve read about Maggie Mason’s Mighty Life List numerous times, it has always seemed like a wonderful activity that I would tackle someday (i.e., never today). The Mighty Life List is a list of 100 or so things to do during your life. Recently, while reading Victoria’s (of SFGIRLBYBAY) post about her own list, I found myself scrawling random items onto note paper.  It felt so exhilarating to dream VERY big about absolutely everything. I find myself dreaming bigger than usual and not restricting myself to what seems merely practical. I am at the earliest stages of this list –> capturing wildly big dreams as they come to me and collating them into a single list. There is no editing at this stage. There is also no counting (i.e., just one item at a time). [Just a note: I've made up these very random rules!]

Now that I’ve spent over a week dreaming, I’m going to share my list so far. I plan to keep adding to this list and then at some point refine the list to 100 items so I can begin to focus on actually doing and not just listing/dreaming!

I’ll share Victoria’s description and then my “little” yet very mighty list. I’ve also dropped the “life” from my list’s name because it feels a bit less scary to approach.

i encourage you all to create your own mighty life list — 100 or so things you’d like to accomplish in your lifetime. putting it all down on paper makes all those dreams just a little less daunting, and sharing them with others, one step closer to accomplishing. you never know who might be able to help you cross something off your list, or who you might be able to help cross something off of theirs — that’s a pretty swell feeling, too! have you got a great group of women to round up and create some mighty life lists? do it – think of it as book club, but where you get to write your own happy ending.

carolyn’s mighty list

launch a gorgeous paper pop-up shop | attend new york fashion week with my mom and sister | host a glittery zen retreat/workshop (think yoga, glitter, and champagne) | practice yoga everyday | learn to knit | take a watercolor class (for super non-creative beginners) | commission a custom illustration of my wedding dress to hang in my home | create a blurb wedding coffee book | have a date night with my hubby once a week forever | create a line of jewelry with my sister | attend the national stationery show | host a workshop/event in my dream space in miami |  learn how to use photoshop | donate my book to at least one cancer center/support group in each state (book genies?!) | join a book club | adopt | build a dream home | write a handwritten thank-you note everyday | teach a journaling workshop | learn to bake | have a regular girls’ night with friends | attend a yoga retreat | be a vegetarian for a week | give mindfully for 29 days | appoint an email genie so i can go on email sabbatical | write and publish a second book | create a unique coffee table quote book (beautiful nourishment for the eyes and the soul) | sip champagne along the seine in paris with my hubby | learn how to create my own perfect iced coffee | throw a holiday party | create a signature gift wrap style | host a “just because” soiree | be a correspondent for a national news show | wear anything but jeans for 30 days | design a custom charm for my mom’s charm bracelet | take a trip with my brother and sister | be a mentor | help someone learn how to read | help to de-stigmatize psychology and mental health | get regular massages | learn how to do a cartwheel | take a photo-a-day for one month | go on a picnic in paris | publish a blog-post a day for seven days | organize evernote so it’s a complete digital sanctuary of information and inspiration | write a guest post for 100 different blogs | train for and run a half marathon | change my twitter username | be a calm traveler (create self-care rituals to help with this) | create a tiny line of exquisite candles | tackle 50 things that i think i can’t do.

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Find Your Links and Feel Good

February 6th, 2009 | 8 Comments »

Feel Good List

image from upup creative

On the internet, we are accustomed to seeing links everywhere. We often click them to go further into a topic. By nature, we’re curious — so… we click the links, which are like sealed boxes, and experience instant satisfaction. When we click on a bad web link, we can easily click back and voila problem solved. However, the links within ourselves are not underlined and color coded. We can’t see them — so when we get stuck, it can be difficult to pinpoint where the link exists.

Before I typed this blog post, I wrote it on a piece of paper with a pen. I can’t think when I type. I’ve always seen this as a huge waste of time since writing long papers by hand can take a ton of time! I’ve been writing a lot recently and have noticed my hand gets tired after awhile and I stop writing for a few moments to let my hand rest. And in those few moments, I often come up with fresh ideas or the missing component of my argument. Just a few moments, when I rest my hand, may be a critical component of my writing process. I mention this little “aha” moment because when we feel stuck or uncomfortable (no link in sight), it is often due to something that seems very minor, such as sitting in one direction versus another direction or using a pen versus a keyboard. When we think in a logical, structured way, we can easily miss the important details. To recognize these little details, we must tap into our right-brain’s thinking style. Until recently, I neglected to engage my right-brain’s treasury. Exploring my creative side has given me more tools to examine life from different perspectives.

Bridging the gap between left-brain thinking and right-brain thinking, Julie Green has created “Feel Good Lists.” Don’t be fooled by the name, it is much more than a list. It is a powerful tool for self-change.

How often do your “regular” to-do list items trump your personal items?

Often, we (myself included) focus little on ourselves and then when we do we feel guilty that we didn’t complete items two and three on our “regular” to-do list. Rationally, it doesn’t make sense. Saying, “I feel good today,” should be a high priority in our lives. It sounds easy enough so why aren’t we doing it?

Because it’s not easy.

We’ve heard it a million times: action – action – action. We need to take action in order to change. And that is 100% true.

However, it’s in this leap from “thought” to “action” that we often get lost.

Why? Well, our webmaster has quit and our links are gone. Yikes. We need to create the links. This requires our logical left-brain and creative right-brain to work together.

Thought: “I want to feel good.”

That’s a pretty lofty goal so where do we even start? We need to define the sub-goals. In order to define your sub-goals, you have to really think about the specifics and ask yourself, “What do I need to do so that I can feel good?” For example, you may create three sub-goals, such as: practice yoga, express gratitude on a regular basis, spend more time with family.

Now, you have established specific goals to “feel good.”

And that’s where the “feel good lists” come in. Utilizing the unique structure of the feel good lists, you can tailor your list to your specific goals. You establish actions to do on a daily and/or weekly basis to help you along the way. Going through the thought process of establishing feasible actions can lead to some wonderful soul-searching and new creative outlets. On most occasions, you’ll have to dig deep to find the all-important link.

Establishing a list of “feel good” items creates structure (making your left-brain very happy!) and accountability.  Through these two key ingredients, structure and accountability, your goal remains in focus.

So now what? I believe the next step should always be “clear” and “simple” — note my username: clrsimple [my initials: clr]

Below are a few clear and simple ideas.

Feel Good this Weekend!!

Carolyn

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Feel Good List (on Etsy)

Simplify101 Workshop — any of the workshops will help you through the thought process and taking action!

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Think.
- Tap into your right-brain.
- Think creatively about what you want and what steps you need to take.
- Check out 100 ideas from Keri Smith

Trial and Error. You don’t need a perfect action plan. You just need to take action. Re-evaluate along the way and tweak your method as needed.

Actively look for connections — you never know when the “aha” link is going to occur — often during the most unexpected times.