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Choosing a Different Road

July 26th, 2011 | 5 Comments »

Each of us has the right and the responsibility to assess the roads which lie ahead, and those over which we have traveled, and if the future road looms ominous or unpromising, and the roads back uninviting, then we need to gather our resolve and, carrying only the necessary baggage, step off that road into another direction. If the new choice is also unpalatable, without embarrassment, we must be ready to change that as well. – Maya Angelou

Do you ever find yourself wondering, how did I get here? After traveling from Place A to Place B for the 70th time, you may begin to feel like you’re moving on autopilot — you’re going through the motions without actually registering these motions. And going through the motions is much easier than challenging yourself to navigate differently each time you travel on that familiar path. Sadly, it often takes a collision or some other external force to provoke us — to make us ponder our motions, and ponder even bigger questions, such as: Is this the path I want to take?

You begin to ask: why am I going to Point B? And if I truly embrace Point B as the place I want to go, is the path I’m on the best path for me? And that depends on what you want, do you want to take a scenic route without a map, or the highway with GPS – and lots of other options in between.

To change paths, we must turn-off autopilot and navigate manually—encountering new turns and soupy traffic (as my dad likes to call it) as we go.

Changing paths, literally and figuratively, is downright frightening. It forces us to move beyond our comfort zone and make difficult decisions. As I assess different paths, I am learning to confront the fear as it greets me (and it’s not so friendly), by not allowing the fear to wrap me in its web. It’s easy to get buried in fear — losing a sense of hope or power as an individual.

To dissolve fear as I greet it, I try focusing on the opposite of what that fear is telling me to do – focusing on what I can gain by changing paths rather than focusing on what I can lose (i.e., assuming the role of victim). Then to settle into the present moment, I ask myself: what am I believing right now? By noticing the stories I am telling myself and being compassionate with myself rather than judgmental, I am able to gain a sense of inner equilibrium. And it’s from this place of stability that we can begin to truly assess what we want and how we choose the path for navigating the journey.

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10 Inspirational People Who Have Redefined the Road to Success (Part One)

July 23rd, 2009 | 11 Comments »

We all have journeys into uncharted territories that we must take alone. But I have learned we aren’t necessarily alone. No matter how dark the moment, brave souls have already walked the same path. The purpose of this book is to shine a light on the path each of us takes.” – me, in Perseverance

Growing up, I watched in awe as my parents lived passionately every single day, using their passion to work tirelessly for what they believed in. They were always learning new things about the world and themselves. Most importantly, they never gave up when things got tough. My parents were the first to demonstrate to me that there is no one way road to success.

Individuals who have found unconventional paths to success and redefined what it takes to be successful have had a profound impact on my ability to create and live an unconventional life – defined primarily by passion. The road has never been easy; yet, giving up has never been an option.

The purpose of this post is to redefine what you recognize as the realm of the possible. To do this, I will introduce you to individuals I consider to be modern-day pioneers. Hopefully, they will open your eyes to an entire world of possibilities and motivate you to create your own unconventional success, to overcome feeling intimidated by the daunting task of pursuing a personal dream.

I wrote down the names of these individuals long before the idea for this post took its final shape since each of them have helped me realize that there is indeed light on the path I am taking—even though it often feels scary and lonely. I look to these individuals for courage and inspiration on a regular basis. I hope that you find inspiration through these individuals as well.

In this post, I will discuss six individuals organized within three different categories.

{It may look like a lot of information to read, so take a deep breathe and read at your own pace. Check out links during downtime – for inspiration and motivation!}

-> Redefining Change: From Curing Cancer to Eradicating Child Poverty

Josh Sommer

Josh SommerI met Josh while I was an undergraduate at Duke University. After I met him and his mom, Simone Sommer, my life has never been the same. Before meeting for the first time at dinner, I knew very little about Josh and expected a quick meal, nice conversation, and a definite conclusion. Of course, fate had different plans that night. Clearly, Josh and I were united for a much greater purpose. Ultimately, Josh would become one of my closest friends. What follows is a short bio to give you a better understanding of why Josh redefines what is possible and inspires me to extend past the limits of my comfort zone. For those who received an advanced release copy of Perseverance, you’ll be surprised to notice an addition to the book: the first page of the book has been changed; it is written by Josh Sommer.

Josh Sommer is the executive director of the Chordoma Foundation, an organization he co-founded with his mother, Dr. Simone Sommer, after he was diagnosed with a clival chordoma in 2006. Josh believes that patients should play an active role in facilitating treatments for their own conditions, and that the patients themselves represent a largely untapped source of funding, energy, and know-how in the treatment development process.

After finishing his junior year in May 2008, Josh was awarded a two-year Echoing Green fellowship for social entrepreneurs. Subsequently, he took a leave of absence from Duke to lead the Chordoma Foundation along with his mom. To complement his work for the foundation, Josh has joined Duke’s Program on Global Health and Technology Access as a Fellow in Strategic Philanthropy and Health. Further, Josh continues to participate in research in Dr. Kelley’s lab and helps coordinate collaborations with a network of chordoma researchers at other institutions worldwide.

You can read this article/watch the video clip for a quick overview; I’m sure he’ll leave you speechless. A link to the overview of Josh’s story is here.

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Marian Wright Edelman

Marian Wright EdelmanAt my sister’s graduation from the University of Miami, Marian Wright Edelman gave the keynote speech. It was the first time I had ever heard her life story. From her biography:

Mrs. Edelman, a graduate of Spelman College and Yale Law School, began her career in the mid-60s when, as the first black woman admitted to the Mississippi Bar, she directed the NAACP Legal Defense and Educational Fund office in Jackson, Mississippi. In l968, she moved to Washington, D.C., as counsel for the Poor People’s Campaign that Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. began organizing before his death. She founded the Washington Research Project, a public interest law firm and the parent body of the Children’s Defense Fund. For two years, she served as the Director of the Center for Law and Education at Harvard University and in 1973 began CDF.

I found the speech awe-inspiring, and it left me—as it did most of the audience—speechless. You can watch online the speech Mrs. Edelman gave at Whittier College, and you can read a short excerpt from the speech here. Additionally, you can read Mrs. Edelman’s “Child Watch” column every Monday on the Huffington Post.

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Chris Guillebeau

Chris GuillebeauI “met” Chris Guillebeau via twitter and realized immediately that I had no choice but to check out what he was doing. How could I not? After all, the name of his Web site, and the common thread that links together his incredible ventures is The Art of Non-Conformity. Once there, I read the title to his free PDF: “A Brief Guide to World Domination.” I have to admit that I was more than a bit wary at first. The concept of “World Domination” is indeed somewhat lofty—but then I read the guide. Through his writing, Chris has redefined world domination and serves as a personal example of someone who walks the talk. Surprisingly, his manifesto has been read by more than 100,000 people in 60 countries. Talk about world domination!

The essence of Chris’ philosophy on World Domination:

Quoted from Chris’s site:

(1) You don’t have to live your life the way other people expect you to.

(2) You can do good things for yourself and help other people at the same time.

(3) There is usually more than one way to accomplish something.

(4) If you don’t decide for yourself what you want to get out of life, someone else will probably end up deciding for you.

Follow Chris on Twitter!

Leo Babauta

Leo BabautaLeo Babauta is the author of a recently published, best-selling book, “The Power of Less,” and the wildly popular blog, “Zen Habits,” which was named a top 25 blog by Time Magazine and has more than 125,000 unique subscribers.

Leo has become incredibly successful through his authenticity, creativity, and a lot of hard work. He wasn’t an overnight success and talks openly on his blog about personal issues, such as exercise and living frugally. It’s very easy to relate to Leo and his strong, thought-provoking posts. He places great value in the quality of his posts and doesn’t sacrifice quality for quantity. The blog’s design also reflects his strong belief in the power of less: the blog is dedicated primarily to content and saves room for just one ad. Nor has Leo sacrificed his personal values for professional success—something most people similarly affected struggle with on a regular basis. His most recent publication is sure to be read by most of the online community: “The Essential Motivation Handbook,” which is a collaboration between Leo and Eric Hamm of the blog, “Motivate Thyself.”

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Christine Mason Miller

Christine Mason MillerIn December 2008, I opened a free account on Wordpress to begin a personal blog. At the time, I had just received my copy of Christine Mason Miller’s book, “Ordinary Sparkling Moments” and had read a few passages before I felt compelled to begin writing. This was a huge step for me, and it marked a passage in my life. I was going through a difficult period at the time, and this book literally became the catalyst for changing my life, embracing my difficulties, and knowing that I would emerge stronger because of the experience. My first post, written on December 18, 2008, is entitled: Ordinary Sparkling Moments. I wrote the post, clicked submit, and began my personal blog journey. In fact, the title of my blog, A Beautiful Ripple Effect, is taken from Christine’s book, and captures the purpose of this blog as well as this new series of posts on unconventional success and redefining what is possible.

When we focus our energy towards constructing a passionate, meaningful life, we are tossing a pebble into the world, creating a beautiful ripple effect of inspiration. When one person follows a dream, tries something new or takes a daring leap, everyone nearby feels that energy, and before too long they are making their own daring leaps and inspiring yet another circle.”
- Christine Mason Miller

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Maya Angelou

Maya AngelouI have been a fan of Maya Angelou’s work since I began reading it in middle school. Still, it wasn’t until I entered Duke that Maya Angelou made a profound impact on my life through the power of her presence and words. I wrote about Maya Angelou in February in response to the following question posed by Michelle Ward: If you could have dinner with anyone, who would it be and why?

Maya Angelou. Read “why” below.

During my first week as a freshman at Duke, Maya Angelou spoke to my entire class, the Class of 2007. I was very close to the stage and could literally feel every single word she spoke. Every word had intention. I remember thinking to myself, one day… I want to have that impact on others. Her words — at that moment in my life — left a mark that set me on a path… a path that I wouldn’t even understand until years later. She was living and breathing each moment in and paying attention to the smallest details, such as eye contact and speech. She filled Duke’s Chapel with more energy than I ever experienced on other occasions. Just Maya Angelou alone on stage. She lit the spark inside of me — the little whisper that said… Wake Up! I heard her speak to each incoming freshman class until I graduated in 2007.

Today, when I listen to Maya Angelou speak, my eyes fill with tears, and those tears are filled with myriad emotions and memories. More than anything, I feel hopeful that I too will “sing.”

How incredible for one person to have such an impact on so many lives. It’s an impact that all too often goes unrecognized because it becomes so deeply rooted within each individual touched. I had to untangle the details to reveal the big picture and realize the etching Dr. Angelou created in my soul. It feels as if it’s always been there. But it hasn’t. Maya Angelou’s words remain with me — and often whisper in my thoughts to do that thing called “living” — even when the skies are filled with clouds and my heart feels heavy. I hear the powerful voice and remember that now — this moment (not the next moment) — is absolutely everything.

Future Directions

In my next post, I will focus on four more individuals. Then, we’ll look at how you can utilize the three essential ingredients with the lessons learned from the 10 pioneers featured. We’ll start thinking about the “what” – what do you want to create, what are your dreams? I’ll begin to weave in a bit of my personal story as well. If you have any specific questions, please let me know in the comments and I’ll try to address them!

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The Bright Side

April 10th, 2009 | 6 Comments »

Bright Side (Studio Mela)

… image from studio mela

Julie Green from UpUp Creative and Each Penny Pretty inspired this post with her comment on my last post, Learning to Let Go: One Life Altering Step at a Time. Julie writes:

I definitely know that feeling — that nagging in your brain. That part of you that asks, “What if no one likes it? What if this is a failure? What if this or that or some other bad thing happens?”

Sometimes I have to force myself to ask the counter questions: “What if everyone loves it? What if it’s a hit?” Sometimes my answers to those questions teach me the most.

In graduate school, we spend a lot of time reading research articles and analyzing pretty much everything. We analyze big issues as well as the intricate details of everyday life. With only three weeks until the end of my first year, it’s interesting to see how much my thinking has evolved over this period of time.

As researchers, our primary job is to think, which sounds pretty easy and fun. Yet, you become so good at thinking about everything at a microscopic level that it’s hard to shut off that type of “thinking.” For example, reading a simple newspaper article turns into a project. I assess and dig into the details of a story and am always skeptical of headlines. I find myself getting into an argument with a piece of paper! Okay, maybe not a real argument, but you get the point!

I think differently, which has its pros and cons. It is very easy to list the cons — for most people, in any situation, the cons are much more salient than the pros.

Therefore, it’s time to work harder on something that matters a lot: thinking, looking, talking, and hyping the bright side.

The bright side is what we live for, what we wish and hope for, where we see other people living their glorious lives. It’s everything we want, need, and love — the good stuff, the little stuff we often overlook.

The glorious thing is that this side already exists — we just need to get our perspective on board to realize. As we continue to grow and evolve as individuals and as a society, our focus needs to shift. We gravitate towards the dark side; we don’t admit this, but it’s evident almost everywhere we look. Deep down, I think we all crave this change. To wake up and hear about growth, rather than downfall. I am very ready for this change and take on the challenge of working to transform my perspective. And that doesn’t mean putting on a fake little smile regardless of how I feel. It simply means becoming mindful that I can choose how I look at a situation.

Sounds like a fantasy, but that’s okay. I have this Maya Angelou quote above my desk: “If one is lucky, a solitary fantasy can totally transform one million realities.”

Change occurs one individual at a time. It’s slow and takes plenty of effort and perseverance, but it is the epitome of a beautiful ripple effect.

• • •

Okay … I’m ready (are you?) …

On my desk: my planner (full of to-do lists) sitting next to a picture of my family in a frame with the phrase, “remember this moment,” engraved on it
–> Every time I look at that photo, my heart overflows with joy and love

My inbox: inbox zero (yes, there are many zeros in the total number of emails I have) — also in that inbox is an email from sister
–> I don’t care if I ever reach “inbox zero,” that one email outweighs them all

Auction: feeling heart broken by the lack of support from people I admired or feeling overwhelming gratitude for those individuals whose support is unwavering (and have given with their heart and soul)
–> I choose to focus on gratitude.

• • •

Oh my goodness, that was an incredibly empowering activity.

Let’s keep this going… choose to look on the bright side so we can continue this powerful change.

What to do: Make a Choice

Look at three scenarios and flip the coin.

Don’t ask why, ask when.
Dwell on the past or do something today.
Wishing for or going for.
I just want to be like him/her or I want to be like me (creating my own path with my own rules).
I don’t know what I’m doing or I’m doing.
I don’t want to fail or I will learn.

Make the decision to look on the bright side.

When I Grow Up

February 19th, 2009 | 23 Comments »

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image from ordinarycourage.com

Michelle (When I Grow Up Coach) created five questions for me. Michelle is one of the sweetest individuals I’ve “virtually” met. I found her through her blog (I think) — left a comment — and have been so inspired by Michelle’s perspective on life and her always cheerful disposition. She really reached out to me and supported my little blog journey. I am so grateful to her and look forward to supporting all of her new adventures. You must check out her blog. It’s addicting, but in a good way :).

• • •

… Q & A …

1) What keeps you up at night?

I wish this were a rhetorical question!

Currently…
- Writing (much more creative at night — probably due to the fact that I’m tired and have less energy to worry about  structure, judgment, etc.)
- “Aha!” Moments ALWAYS occur late at night for me.
- Lots of emails to respond to (tend to respond at night so I can craft more thoughtful responses)
- So much to explore and so little time
- Browsing Etsy (night time ritual — always the last thing I do before leaving my desk)
- Reading my favorite blogs

Hmmm…… I suppose a great question would be: what doesn’t keep me up at night!

2) What piece of advice would your present self give your future self, circa 2029? [note: responses are in no specific order and all advice would of course come with links!)

  • Remain Authentic
  • Write in a Journal
  • Nurture Yourself
  • Don’t put off goals and dreams for “Someday”
  • Don’t leave anything unsaid. Tell those you love — why you love them — don’t wait for your calendar to tell you when to send a thoughtful card.
  • Never stop dreaming.
  • Do all things with passion.
  • Remember, “Now is Everything”
  • Slow Down
  • Begin and end each day with a smile.
  • Express gratitude daily.
  • Trust Yourself.

3) If you could have dinner with anyone — who would it be and why?

Maya Angelou.

I have been inspired by Maya Angelou’s work for as long as I can remember. During my first week as a freshman at Duke, Maya Angelou spoke to my entire class, Class of 2007. I was very close to the stage and could literally feel every single word she spoke. Every word had intention. I remember thinking to myself, one day… I want to have that impact on others. Her words — at that moment in my life — left a mark that set me on a path… a path that I wouldn’t even understand until years later. She was living and breathing each moment in and paying attention to the smallest details, such as eye contact and speech. She filled Duke’s Chapel with more energy than I ever experienced on other occasions. Just Maya Angelou alone on stage. She lit the spark inside of me — the little whisper that said… Wake Up! I heard her speak to each incoming freshman class until I graduated in 2007.

Today, when I listen to Maya Angelou speak, my eyes fill with tears. The tears are filled with many emotions and memories. More than anything, I feel hopeful that I will “sing.”

… a few of my favorite quotes by Maya Angelou …

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

“Words mean more than what is set down on paper. It takes the human voice to infuse them with deeper meaning.”

“Courage is the most important of all the virtues, because without courage you can’t practice any other virtue consistently. You can practice any virtue erratically, but nothing consistently without courage.”

“Music was my refuge. I could crawl into the space between the notes and curl my back to loneliness.”

“The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned.”

“We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.”

“The idea is to write it so that people hear it and it slides through the brain and goes straight to the heart.”

“Life loves to be taken by the lapel and told: ‘I’m with you kid. Let’s go.’”

… about Maya Angelou …

Oprah.Com: Dr. Angelou On the Road at Duke University
Oprah.Com: About Dr. Maya Angelou

… final thoughts …
How incredible for one person to have such an impact on so many lives. It’s an impact that goes too often unrecognized because it becomes so deeply rooted within each individual touched. I had to untangle the details to reveal the big picture and realize the etching that Dr. Angelou created in my soul. It feels as if it’s always been there. But it hasn’t.   Maya Angelou’s words remain with me — and often whisper in my thoughts to do that thing called “living” — even when the skies are filled with clouds and my heart feels heavy. I hear the powerful voice and remember that now — this moment (not the next moment) — is absolutely everything.

4) What is your best character trait?

Authentic Passion.

When I become passionate about something, I am able to utilize that passion to harness the energy to overcome tremendous hurdles and obstacles. I move forward — very focused on what I want to accomplish. While it is my “best” trait, it also comes at a cost. I don’t pick and choose my passions. They have just fallen into my life and at times (such as now), I am doing many things that I am passionate about — which means I do far too much. Even though I *know* this, I can’t seem to balance it out. I suppose it has to do with my realization that -today- is my focus — not tomorrow or the next day. I fear putting things off because I know too well the reality of life. I want to know that I did everything I could to plant a powerful, positive seed that can grow beyond my time.

5) What’s your favorite TV show of all time?

Gilmore Girls!

• • •

…. Final Note ….

Again, I am inspired by the incredible Brené Brown. You must read her post: have hope, then spread it around. The post has a video at the bottom of it. It may be my favorite video of all time :). Be sure to watch the video at the end and listen to the song that accompanies it!!

…. Thank You ….
Michelle, thank you for these wonderful thought-provoking questions. And thank you to everyone who reads this little blog. I am so grateful for the tremendous support :). I always look forward to writing a new post and reading your comments.

• • • LETS HAVE SOME FUN • • •

Lets continue the blog Q & A!! Read the “Interview Rules” below!!

THE INTERVIEW RULES
* leave me a comment saying: “interview me”
* all comments will be published
* I will e-mail you five questions of my choice
* you can then answer the questions on your blog {with a link back to my blog}
* you should also post these rules, along with an offer to interview anyone else who e-mails you wanting to be interviewed
* anyone who asks to be interviewed should be sent 5 questions to answer on their blog
* it would be nice if the questions were individualized for each blogger

* Note (Carolyn’s Addition to Interview Rules): If you don’t have a blog or would rather keep your responses more private, feel free to respond to your questions directly on my blog or keep them to yourselves :).

“Beautiful Ripple Effect” of this fun blog project:

Danielle LaPorte of White Hot Truth & Carrie + Danielle sent questions to:

Michelle of When I Grow Up sent questions to:

Carolyn of A Beautiful Ripple Effect