Posts Tagged ‘resistance’

The Courage to Write: 23 Quotes to Help You Overcome the Fear of Writing

October 21st, 2011 | 9 Comments »

Whenever I sit down to write, I am prepared to meet my loyal companion: fear. Regardless of what I’m writing, I can almost always count on fear being present. So what do I do with this fear of uncertainty? Most of the time, I choose to deflate its presence by putting pen to paper. However, there are times, when I don’t want to experience the fear and choose not to show up. But I’m really trying to minimize the “write or flight” response of not showing up by creating a safe space for the fearful writer within. One way I do this is to keep a journal of quotes for the moments when I need a little nudge of encouragement to be present and forge ahead.

I’ve chosen 23 quotes from my journal to share here for others who need encouragement when approaching the blank page. I hope that some of these words will resonate with you (and particularly the fearful writer within).

Writing a novel is like driving a car at night. You can see only as far as your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way. —E.L. Doctorow

Close the door. Write with no one looking over your shoulder. Don’t try to figure out what other people want to hear from you; figure our what you have to say. It’s the one and only thing you have to offer. —Barbara Kingsolver

Artists who seek perfection in everything are those who cannot attain it in anything. —Gustave Flaubert

The art of writing is the art of applying the seat of the pants to the seat of the chair. —Mary Heaton Vorse

I’m writing a book. I’ve got the page numbers done. —Stephen Wright (this one is for a chuckle!)

I have never thought of myself as a good writer. Anyone who wants reassurance of that should read one of my first drafts. But I’m one of the world’s great rewriters. I find that three or four readings are required to comb out the cliches, line up pronouns with their antecedents, and insure agreement in number between subject and verbs…My connectives, my clauses, my subsidiary phrases don’t come naturally to me and I’m very prone to repetition of words; so I never even write an important letter in the first draft. I can never recall anything of mine that’s ever been printed in less than three drafts. You write that first draft really to see how it’s going to come out. —James A. Michener

Writing is thinking on paper. —William Zinsser

If you haven’t got an idea, start a story anyway. You can always throw it away, and maybe by the time you get to the fourth page you will have an idea, and you’ll only have to throw away the first three pages. —William Campbell Gault

Resistance is fear. But resistance is too cunning to show itself naked in this form. Why? Because if Resistance lets us see clearly that our own fear is preventing us from doing our work, we may feel shame at this. And shame may drive us to act in the face of fear. —Steven Pressfield (The War of Art)

A great deal of talent is lost to the world for want of a little courage. —Sidney Smith

There is no satisfactory explanation of style, no infallible guide to good writing, no assurance that a person who thinks clearly will be able to write clearly, no key that unlocks the door, no inflexible rules by which the young writer may steer his course. He will often find himself steering by stars that are disturbingly in motion. —E. B. White

There is always the risk that you may disappoint yourself. That risk is there even for productive writers, as most writers don’t write as often as they would like. Because of this reality, you will need to practice self-forgiveness. —Eric Maisel

By writing much, one learns to write well. —Robert Southey

If we had to say what writing is, we would have to define it essentially as an act of courage. —Cynthia Ozick

Exercise the writing muscle every day, even if it is only a letter, notes, a title list, a character sketch, a journal entry. Writers are like dancers, like athletes. Without that exercise, the muscles seize up. —Jane Yolen

Don’t feel guilty about being afraid of the blank page. Don’t think you aren’t a writer if you don’t rush to the computer first thing when you get up in the morning in order to face the empty page. Writing is hard work. Filling up an empty page with your thoughts, your pains, your joys, and your creative ideas takes immense courage. —Rachel Ballon

Inspiration doesn’t descend like a lightning bolt from the gods. Inspiration comes instead from a steady breath, a solid foundation, and a commitment to the process. —Laraine Herring

Almost all good writing begins with terrible first efforts. You need to start somewhere. Start by getting something—anything—down on paper. —Anne Lamott (Bird by Bird)

Work inspires inspiration. Keep working. If you succeed, keep working. If you fail, keep working. If you are interested, keep working. If you are bored, keep working. —Michael Chrichton

Once we are aware of our fears, we are almost always capable of being more courageous than we think. Someone once told me that fear and courage are like lightning and thunder; they both start out at the same time, but the fear travels faster and arrives sooner. If we just wait a moment, the requisite courage will be along shortly. —Lawrence Block

A writer is someone for whom writing is more difficult than for others. —Thomas Mann

The secret of getting ahead is getting started. —Agatha Christie

At some point we must stop anticipating our journey and set sail. Willa Cather said that she wrote best when she stopped trying to write and began simply to remember. —Ralph Keyes (The Courage to Write)

Do you have any favorite quotes or words of wisdom about writing?

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Dancing with Struggles and Icky Inner Chatter

November 3rd, 2010 | 8 Comments »

I know I’ve said it before, but I must say it again: I am so overwhelmed. Truly overwhelmed with pressing deadlines and no room to breathe and rejuvenate. Last night, after sipping some warm tea, I took out my journal and let the thoughts flow freely onto paper. And it helped – tremendously. Below is a snippet of the process I followed in my journal.

Question: Why do I feel so overwhelmed?

-> Struggles (the unfiltered chatter in my mind)

change / growth / plans / skills / do / want / need / am i getting anywhere? / the icky / the mundane / the negative feedback (… the craving for feedback of any kind) / on demand success / jealousy (and comparisons that lead to them) / questions with answers that are questions (yuck!) / now what? / why am i beating myself up!? / “success” = hard, painful strenuous work which requires constant berating of self / it is so easy for “madeleine,” what am i doing wrong? / how do i hide these struggles and appear like everything is sparkly?

. . .

deep breath. sip tea. quiet the chatter.

… which leads to a shift in my focus …

-> Non-Struggles (what is going right in my life? what am i grateful for?)

… these answers, this chatter is much kinder and gentler… and the answers slowly move through my mind, bake for a bit and leave an imprint in my heart. and i notice the good, the parts of my life that are my core / my foundation / my identity.

Magically, this shift in focus, relieves the negative chatter, revoking their invitation to my party of quiet reflection.

-> Struggles vs. Non-Struggles

… but the struggles have the power of “urgency” – they feel desperate and tied to a result that will make or break me. they feel warranted and rational while rushing through my mind. and i can’t (i.e., won’t) stop what i’m doing for a calmer, simple life because my goals are tied to my core, to my successes.

It’s just the journey, the micro-steps, that can overshadow the horizon and fertile foundation.

… that’s where i’m at today. struggling. celebrating. learning how to dance with struggles and the icky inner chatter.

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Between the Mind and the Pen

June 16th, 2010 | 18 Comments »

I write to understand better – myself and other people. I write to communicate and connect, usually first in my journal and then onto a legal notepad, and finally by typing as quickly as I can. I lose track of time and the world beyond my paper and pen in these sacred moments. And I love to write, the actual process versus the completion or end point, which is hard to say about most “obligations” in life.

But, as any writer will say, there are times when I just can’t write, or would rather be doing anything but write. I almost always feel resistance rush through my body as I near the pen and open journal. I don’t consider this resistance to be “writer’s block”; rather, I suffer from a far less glamorous label: fear. Not fear of the actual writing or even the reaction of others to the writing, because to be honest I don’t write in my journal for others; I fear what will happen when I open up to myself.

For so long, I suppressed what I felt, and in retrospect I recognize that this was my survival strategy. I wasn’t ready to process all that I experienced so early in life. Now, everyday, I show up to process whatever travels from pen to paper – and the uncertainty of what will come undone fuels my resistance. So, I give in to that fear, not all the time, but some of the time. I’m not perfect and can’t be strong everyday; however, on most days, I feel that surge of adrenaline masked as fear and decide to walk directly into the ring of fire.

When I make that decision, do I feel strong or empowered? No! I feel anxious and scared, but I don’t let these emotions dictate my actions. Then, as I write, regardless of what I may be wrestling with on paper, the fear, and all of what it comprises, dissolves. I recognize the turn in my emotions, and a little empowered smirk appears on my face.

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Podcast #1: The War of Art and The Art of Action

February 1st, 2010 | 17 Comments »

I love the beginning of a new month – especially February. My birthday is on March 1st so I tend to take a lot of action in February. This year, I’m continuing the tradition by sharing my very first podcast.

I hope to utilize podcasts to share more of my creative process – something I don’t discuss too often on the blog. In this podcast, I discuss the powerful role of resistance and a call to action at the end.

I greatly appreciate your comments and look forward to discussing this topic with you! Thank you for listening :).

Click the play button below to listen to the podcast. It runs a little less than 10 minutes.

 

In case you have any difficulties with the player, you can click here to listen via Quicktime:
A Beautiful Ripple Effect Podcast 1

Book mentioned in this podcast: The War of Art by Steven Pressfield

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