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Get More Done #2: How to Set Powerful Goals and Take Meaningful Action

August 10th, 2010 | 6 Comments »

If you haven’t read part one in this series, Get More Done #1: How to Confront and Weaken Analysis Paralysis, you might want to head there first.

Why are you doing what you are doing? Without a goal to connect to your actions, it is difficult to maintain momentum and motivation. When the actions of a task are tedious and not intrinsically exciting, it can feel as if there is no larger purpose to them. But there is always a goal, and without acknowledging it, you are walking down a dark and windy path with no map in hand.

Reconnect with Your Overarching Goal

Get Excited. Reframe your work in a way that excites you. What will spark your energy? Use your imagination to create a compelling reason to attract you to your work. Try thinking about how you could persuade someone else to do what you do, and be as genuine as possible. Find the silver lining and magnify it. In his groundbreaking book, The Now Habit, Neil Fiore writes, “The type of work and commitment that is more compatible with the Now Habit is a commitment to a mission that focuses your energies and brings about inner harmony, a commitment that comes from a pull toward a goal and an excitement about the process of getting there.”

Create a Goal Statement. There are many ways to create a goal statement that you can use to remind yourself of your greater purpose. For the purpose of overcoming analysis paralysis, I try to create a statement that is specific to the task at hand and has a deadline within four weeks. Let’s start with an example that I recently utilized (Thank you to Aby Garvey for teaching me this wonderful goal-setting technique!).

“Today is September 1, 2010. I am confident and calm now that my research proposal is complete.”

  • Include a specific date in your goal statement. Mark this date in your calendar.
  • What will you complete by your set date? Don’t set yourself up to fail. Keep your expectations realistic.
  • How will you feel when you complete this goal?
  • Create your goal statement using the steps outlined above and display it where you can see it throughout the day in order to maintain focus on why you are doing what you are doing! It can be helpful to create sub-goal statements as well if your project is especially long and arduous. To create a sub-goal statement, you follow the same formula as outlined above, but use specific milestones toward the main goal. For example, “Today is August 12, 2010. I am confident and calm now that my research proposal’s appendix materials are complete.”

Restart Your Engine with Intention and Ease

Now that you have faced your analysis paralysis head on, you have tremendously weakened its resolve. Spend a few minutes refocusing on the task at hand. Do you have everything you need to complete your work? Collate all of your materials near your command center. Then, determine what actions you want to take today. Rather than focus on completion, concentrate on starting to maintain momentum.

Create a Mind-Map. If you are still feeling resistance, utilize a mind-map to break down the actions into micro-actions (each action should take less than 5 minutes). In the middle of the mind-map, you want to write your main goal to keep it front and center. For reference, you can see my simple example below.

Focus on Action. You are ready to take action! Often, preparing to take action can become quite draining so you need to rev yourself up again to actually make progress. To help give you that much-needed push, try the following focusing exercise from The Now Habit. The exercise below is a shorter version than the one outlined within the book (the full exercise begins on page 150 of the paperback copy of the book).

“Focusing is a two-minute procedure for shifting rapidly to the flow state by replacing guilt and stress with stress-free focus on the present.”

With each breath I am tapping into my creative self, opening more and more of my brain power to approach my task. My conscious mind may not know yet what to do, just as it doesn’t know how a puzzle will look until it’s finished. I may not know how I’m going to do this, but soon something will come to me, and then a little bit more will come. I will find the process very interesting, because while I don’t know yet what the solution will be, I do know that I will do it, and that part of me already knows how to do it. It will also be interesting to see how time feels different at this level of the mind and to discover about how much I will accomplish in such a short period of clock time.

Counting up from 1 to 3, I am becoming more quietly alert, and I am now ready to work in a focused, concentrated way, rapidly going from not knowing to knowing how to start: 1. I am more alert, relaxed, and energized, ready to use the superior wisdom of my subconscious mind. 2. I am ready to come all the way up to full alertness with my eyes open, eager to work in conjunction with the creative faculties of my mind. 3.

By taking action, you will begin to create momentum by weakening the resistance you feel between you and the finish line. Moving forward, you will likely confront analysis paralysis again, but each time you do, you can approach it with strength rather than letting it seize your control.

Chime in! What are your thoughts on getting more done or analysis paralysis? Or just say hello, it’s always nice to know that others can relate :).

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How to Talk Your Way to Greater Productivity

April 19th, 2010 | 12 Comments »

“It is not discipline, willpower, or pressure from others that facilitates adherence to a challenging course of action. Rather, it is the freedom to choose among alternatives, the personal commitment to a mission, and the willingness to take responsibility for the consequences of our decisions that steels the will and emboldens the spirit.” -Neil Fiore

It’s no secret that we love to talk to ourselves, more commonly known as “self-talk.” Our self-talk can communicate a message of productivity (commitment to action) or a message of procrastination (resistance to action). We have the power to recognize different messages and choose which we prefer to utilize. Self-talk typically occurs subconsciously, however, which makes us often ignore limiting or self-defeating language much more easily. But by doing that, you remain powerless over the impact of subliminal messages, which reaches far beyond our subconscious.

Overview: Notice, Rephrase, and Commit to Action

First, notice counterproductive vs. productive self-talk.

Second, rephrase your counterproductive self-talk by utilizing more effective language.

Third, translate your knowledge into the context of change. Focus on utilizing effective self-talk to create positive behavioral changes, thereby increasing your commitment to action and avoiding the paralysis of procrastination.

Notice How You Talk To Yourself:  Recognize Counterproductive Messages

When you talk to yourself in an authoritarian voice, you are subconsciously communicating a message of fear and resentment to both your mind and your body. Fear of course can be a great motivator, but to what end? And how much fear is too much fear? There is no clear threshold here. However, when you begin only reacting out of fear or procrastinating just due to fear, it’s time to change your voice. Below are a few examples of self-talk that can trigger a fear-based response.

  • I have to…
  • I should…
  • I must finish…
  • I must be perfect…
  • I don’t have time to take a break.
  • I need to finish this really important and HUGE project very soon/immediately.
  • What am I forgetting to do?
  • Why didn’t I start this task earlier?
  • I’ll never finish this project.
  • This project has to be done perfectly or else.
  • What’s wrong with me?
  • Why do I make so many mistakes?
  • Why can’t I do just this one thing right?
  • I have to finish everything.

Just typing these statements produced a tremendous sense of fear within me. I noticed that I began to type faster and felt a much greater resistance to the overall goal of this post. I got lost in my thoughts – and even began to think along the same lines as in “I need to write this post perfectly or else…”  Then, I caught myself (thankfully). So I took a deep breathe, moved my fingers away from the keyboard, and focused on the big picture – my personal goal for the post. The paralysis dissolved and I was back in action.

Can you relate to any of the statements above? Try printing out this article or writing thoughts down on paper that you can relate to easily. This exercise will give you greater leverage and help in rephrasing these statements and moving forward.

Bottom Line: Notice your self-talk and how it makes you feel. Write down any statements that make you feel a sense of fear or worry. By simply recognizing specific thoughts, you are taking back control. The thoughts are no longer working subconsciously. You choose how to move forward rather than stalling due to fear.

Notice How You Talk To Yourself: Identify Productive Messages

Not everything we say is negative! Let’s take a few minutes to focus on the positive messages we give ourselves. These statements may also be working subconsciously, so I’ll start the exercise by providing a few examples. Read through them and notice how you feel as you do so. Do you feel a different response, a more positive feeling, than you did when reading through the counterproductive messages listed earlier?

  • I choose to…
  • When can I start?
  • I can take one small step.
  • I can be perfectly human.
  • I must take time to play.
  • I want to…
  • I decide…
  • I will…

It’s easy to get caught up in negative self-talk. We all know that such messages don’t communicate what we choose for ourselves; rather, they communicate a feeling of burden or powerlessness. There is no choice that is actually identified in our inner dialogue, and that is the essential element of productive self-talk. Productive language is all about choice – all about being in power and deciding what we want to do, regardless of our current circumstances. Yes, we are in situation B, so how do we want to begin? How do we choose to begin?

The goal is to start from a positive mindset, always shifting from “should” to “choose.”

Rephrase the self-talk of procrastination with the effective self-talk of producers.

“Whenever you catch yourself losing motivation on a project, look for the implicit ‘have to’ in your thinking and make a decision at that moment to embrace the path — as it is, not the way you think it should be — or let go of it. It’s your choice.” -Neil Fiore, The Now Habit

Rephrase your self-talk by identifying negative self-talk.

In The Now Habit, Neil Fiore, provides the following examples:

“I have to.” –> “I have to, but I don’t want to.” –> “I have to, but if I were powerful I wouldn’t.”

  • This statement offers a sense of ambivalence and victimization that actually justifies procrastination. Challenge the statement with a statement of choice and an attitude of empowerment
  • Replace “I have to” with “I choose to.”

“I must finish.”

  • Replace this vague and overwhelming statement with “When can I start?

“This project is so big and important.” –> I don’t see how I can tackle such a huge task.” –> “This project has to impress everyone. This is my one big chance in life.”

  • Replace this statement with “I can take one small step.” “I choose to start with one small step.”
  • I can take one small step: Do one rough, rough draft; one imperfect sketch; one small hello. That’s all I need to do right now.

Finally, translate your knowledge into the context of change. Focus on utilizing effective self-talk to create behavioral changes, increase your commitment to action and avoid the paralysis of procrastination.

What can you do now to change the power dynamic to be in your favor?

What statements are key for your moving forward positively? Write these statements on post-it notes and keep them front and center daily. On my computer, I have a post-it note with a simple statement: There is nothing I need to do now except this. It serves as a constant reminder that I am in control of the present moment. I choose what happens right now – no one else has that power over me.

What do you choose to do now?