Posts Tagged ‘The Whole Self’

Loss Love Life: A New Project Sheds Light on the Transformative Power of Loss

July 11th, 2010 | 7 Comments »

I received an email yesterday from someone who had recently read my book, Perseverance. It’s an email I receive often, an emotional account of how an individual perseveres through unimaginable darkness, that always leaves me speechless. I question why I am worthy of receiving acknowledgment when this individual is far more powerful than I could ever aptly describe in words. I am merely the conduit that made sure this book entered the world. I never questioned its need to be written, but do question why I was the person selected to write it.

For over ten years, I have immersed myself in a world that deals with loss on a daily basis.  And I have become the person many people seek for hope and inspiration to work through the experience of loss. That’s a big role for one person to fill. I resisted this simple fact for quite some time. I felt that taking time to focus on myself would be selfish. In reality, by not taking this time, I was more selfish – acting as if I were superhuman. It wasn’t until I became my weakest that I realized the importance of beginning my own journey of healing. This blog served as my cocoon. Writing became a ritual that united me with my inner voice. It helped me to resist retreating into the habit of ignoring my emotions and self-care.

In May, I was contacted by Nicola Warwick of The Whole Self to contribute to a workbook she was creating on the power of loss. I resisted the project until the last day and then finally sat down with a piece of paper, a pen, and a big box of tissues. I wrote from my heart and after submitting the piece to Nicola felt a powerful wave of energy that sparkled with inspiration. I needed to write this piece, to share this story. I am grateful that the universe delivered this opportunity to me and that I embraced it.

The workbook, Loss Love Life, is available for free. You can download it and read its powerful stories whenever you feel the time is right. I have read it twice already and gain new insight each time. The workbook includes exercises and resources in addition to the powerful stories. The contributors include: Thursday’s Child, Julie Daley, Patti Digh, Margaret Fuller, Danielle LaPorte, Michael Nobbs, Carolyn Rubenstein, Andrea Schroeder, Kate Swoboda, Julie Jordan Scott, Dyana Valentine, Eydie Watts and Nicola Warwick.

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10 Things That Make Me Happy: Nicola Warwick

January 15th, 2010 | 7 Comments »

What makes you happy? Can you name 10 things that make you happy? Try it! It’s a fun activity and I am thrilled to feature what makes the A Beautiful Ripple Effect community happy :). This guest post is curated by Nicola Warwick! You can read more about Nicola at the end of this post.

10 Things That Make Me Happy | ABRE

1. My tree.
“I frequently tramped eight or ten miles through the deepest snow to keep an appointment with a beech-tree, or a yellow birch, or an old acquaintance among the pines.” – Henry David Thoreau
Nicola's tree
There are lots and lots of trees in the park but, for some reason, early on in my acquaintance with the park, I singled out this tree as my favourite. It almost stands alone but is part of a row of trees. I’ve taken hundreds and hundreds of photographs of this tree. In every season. But this photograph is the one that I love the best. I have it framed on my wall and it brings me a great deal of pleasure every time I look at it. I go to visit my tree whenever I am in the park. I think there’s something to be said for communing with nature. It has an effect on your soul. There’s a calming nature to trees and I just love being around them.

Belly Dancer & The Park photographs2. Photography.
This is my absolute favourite thing. I’m always at my happiest when I have a camera in my hand. Whether I’m taking photographs for my own pleasure or taking photographs for other people, it has the ability to take me to a different place. A little switch flicks somewhere in my head and I just get into the flow. It’s as if nothing else exists in the world apart from me and my camera. The feeling of joy that I get from photography is huge.

And looking at photographs I’ve taken is a constant reminder of that feeling and the memory of the day. Having someone compliment my photographs, and knowing someone likes something I’ve created, moves me enormously.

3. Creative projects.
Last year was a year of revelations for me. I’d known there was something that I was supposed to be doing but I couldn’t define it for a long time. Understanding that, finally, and having a purpose, created a big shift for me. The ideas started flowing and I derived a great sense of fulfillment from working on them.

4. Getting up early.
I like the hour in the morning before I have to go to work. I catch up with my blog, I read other people’s websites, I tweet. I really enjoy the hour or so when the world seems as though it’s still asleep and I’m getting a march on the day. In the winter everywhere is still dark but in the summer I can watch the day beginning. It’s a really precious time for me as it’s often the only time in the day that I can work on my ideas and projects. It’s an hour crammed with energy.

Wide open space 5. Wide open spaces.
The place I go most often is the park. I can walk and walk for hours. I take photographs, I invariably have a coffee in one of the little park cafes. I take a notebook and sit and jot while I drink my coffee. It’s a place that is away from the noise of the traffic. There’s always something new to look at, or a favourite tree to check on, a familiar face to chat to. But also it’s a great opportunity to think and contemplate and have some moments of peace.

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