Posts Tagged ‘Unconventional Success’

Living Your Vision: Carrie McCarthy

August 13th, 2010 | 24 Comments »

Purpose of “Living Your Vision” Series: To focus on the journey – the how – of unconventional success. The series emphasizes that life is truly a verb – not solely a string of accomplishments.

Unconventional success redefines what we consider possible – it’s success that has not yet been defined by others. Essentially, it means paving a path through uncharted territory.

Carrie McCarthy is the founder and co-author of Style Statement: Live by Your Own Design, she has been featured in Real Simple, Vogue, Body & Soul, and Domino. Style Statement is an intimate process of self-revelation and empowerment, An hour-long consultation that provides a blueprint of sorts for a woman’s personal, emotional and life styles-all designed to help her live authentically.”

As an interior designer, Carrie founded her company on the principle that true style creates both beauty and ease in people’s lives. She has designed for multi-million dollar estates and small studios, and styled for lifestyle magazines, luxury hotels and architectural firms. As a graduate of the London College of Fashion, Carrie established “Robe,” a successful wedding dress company, which was a dramatic contrast from her early career as a nationally ranked track and field athlete.

How are you living your vision?

My vision is a work in progress, one day it feels graceful and full of ease, another day it feels difficult and wobbly. And I’m okay with my paradoxical feelings. I’ve given up thinking, “I need to get it right,” instead I ask three questions:

Does this bring me joy?

What am I committed to?

Who may I ask for support?

Asking myself these questions guides me towards my vision especially on those days of insecurity, overwhelm and abundance of choice.

What is your Style Statement? Please share what that statement means to you.

My Style Statement is Refined Treasure. I’ve always been refining my business, my choices, and my lifestyle. On the deepest level, my Style Statement reminds me that it’s always valuable to refine my plan, and treasures always show up. And when I have been less than my best – I’ve been the opposite of my Style Statement, ignoring my intuition, rushing under pressure or neglecting my needs.

When I treasure myself, I find the treasures in others.

When working on an exciting project (one that you are passionate about), how do you quiet your thoughts and shift your mind-set in order to do “other” things?

Some people can work through a bomb going off, not me. A beautiful environment is essential to my creativity, I sit at my French monastery table with a view of the forest, a cup of earl grey tea, a pencil, a pad of grid paper, my mac book and my mind is clear and alert.

What are three to five lessons you’ve learned during your personal journey?

  • I am responsible for my life.
  • Nature heals.
  • Beauty inspires.
  • I am perfectly flawed.
  • Big egos are big problems.

How do you acknowledge & celebrate personal success?

I’m not great at this, it’s one of the reasons my second word is Treasure. As a student and athlete I learned to go without until it became a habit, then I met my husband and he has taught me to fill our lives with goodness and celebration. Hands down the birth of our son has been the greatest gift and in celebration of his birth we planted an olive tree on our property.

Complete the prompts in bold…

  • I know… knowing yourself is beautiful.
  • This week, I want to… swim 2km.
  • This month, I want to… complete our cottage on the Gulf Islands and spend the rest of the summer there.
  • In this lifetime, I want to… foster what I love and make a difference.
  • I don’t know… so much.
  • I am… complicated and brave.

What’s an inspiring tip you’d like to share with readers?

Underneath each complaint is a wish, what are you wishing for?

What’s a question you wish more people asked?

What are you curious about?

. . . . . GIVEAWAY! . . . . .

Thank you so much, Carrie, for sharing your incredible responses! I am so inspired by how you are living your vision :).

Carrie is giving away a signed copy of Style Statement: Live By Your Own Design to one lucky winner. To enter to win, please answer the following question by 5 PM EST Friday, August 20th.

What do you find yourself consistently longing for?

:: UPDATE (8-23-2010) ::

Congratulations, Jenn, you are the giveaway recipient! Thank you so much to everyone for your thoughtful comments!

Living Your Vision: Leana May

April 23rd, 2010 | 7 Comments »

Purpose of “Living Your Vision” Series: To focus on the journey – the how – of unconventional success. The series emphasizes that life is truly a verb – not solely a string of accomplishments.

Unconventional success redefines what we consider possible – it’s success that has not yet been defined by others. Essentially, it means paving a path through uncharted territory.

Leana May is in the midst of her training to become a pediatric oncologist.

While in medical school fulfilling her lifelong dream of becoming a physician, Leana realized that she was meant to do more than treat individual patients. Influenced by her extensive medical work abroad, as well as her love for under served populations, Leana made the unconventional decision to pursue a Masters in Public Health before beginning residency. Her global research in cancer in under served populations led to another two year hiatus from clinical medicine. The path Leana envisioned for herself has taken many twists and turns, but along the way she has found deeper levels of personal fulfillment and inspiration than she could have ever imagined possible.

Leana is proud to serve on the Lance Armstrong Foundation’s Young Leaders Cancer Council and is involved with a number of other national cancer organizations. This past fall she was selected as a delegate from the United States to the Lance Armstrong Foundation’s Global Cancer Summit in Dublin, Ireland, for her research on pediatric brain tumors in Morocco. In addition, she enjoys blogging about experiences and things that inspire her at Be The Change.

How are you living your vision?

I have always believed in working hard, but playing equally as hard. I try to balance the rigors of my work with making time for things that bring me personal joy and nourish my soul. I enjoy practicing yoga, participating in biking events and triathlons, snowshoeing, skiing, reading blogs and traveling the world.

What are three to five lessons you’ve learned during your personal journey?

  • You are often your harshest critic.
  • Follow your heart, trust your gut.
  • Tomorrow is a new day, a fresh start no matter what happened today.
  • Living each day as if it were your last will allow a life without regrets.
  • Love and believe in yourself as much as you believe in your friends & family.

How do you acknowledge & celebrate personal success?

This is something I struggle with. I always have the next project or goal in mind. Optimally I would celebrate with my family and friends as they are the source of so much of my strength. If they aren’t around, I try to do something small to pause in acknowledgment of my persistence, sweat and tears. It might be a cupcake or popping open a bottle of my favorite sparkling wine, Sophia.

What are your unfiltered thoughts about failure?

I despise the word failure. My energy and thoughts may need to change directions, but there is always a lesson to learn, therefore no act is a failure. I like to think of my difficulties as struggles or roadblocks. I try to analyze and understand the process when I don’t obtain a desired result: What didn’t work? What am I truly trying to accomplish? Are their other ways to reach the same end point?

The biggest lesson I have learned is that no matter how dire the circumstances seem in the moment, time heals. Personally, my struggles and proverbial road blocks have led to some of the most remarkable experiences and relationships in my life. I often find comfort in this Tony Snow quote, “The challenges that make our hearts leap and stomachs churn invariably strengthen our faith and grant measures of wisdom and joy that we would not experience otherwise.”

Complete the prompts in bold…

  • I know… that dreams are always worth chasing.
  • This week, I want to… say yes to something new or out of my usual routine.
  • This month, I want to… trust in the universe for the “right” outcome to an upcoming big decision in my life.
  • In this lifetime, I want to… find a way to leave a lasting impact on the world.
  • I don’t know… what the future holds, but I have faith that my passion and persistence will serve me well.
  • I am… grateful for this moment.

What’s an inspiring tip you’d like to share with readers?

We are each the hero of our story.

What’s a question you wish more people asked?

Where can you bring hope, courage or joy into the life of someone you know?

Living Your Vision: Christine Mason Miller

December 9th, 2009 | 15 Comments »

Over the past few months, Unconventional Success has been a hot topic on A Beautiful Ripple Effect. Each post prompted unique reactions and a desire to know more. After much brainstorming, I realized that in order to “know more,” we needed to look at the journey from different perspectives. Last month, I announced this realization and the beginning of a new interview series. I could not have imagined a better person to launch this series — since it was this individual who prompted the launch of A Beautiful Ripple Effect.

Purpose of “Living Your Vision” Series: To focus on the journey – the how – of unconventional success. The series emphasizes that life is truly a verb – not solely a string of accomplishments.

Unconventional success redefines what we consider possible – it’s success that has not yet been defined by others. Essentially, it means paving a path through uncharted territory.

Christine Mason Miller Photograph

Christine Mason Miller is a Santa Monica based writer and artist who has been drawing, painting, creating, writing and exploring ever since she was a little girl. She began her journey as a professional artist in 1995 with the creation of Swirly, which began as a line of handmade greeting cards and evolved into an internationally recognized brand with licensees, clients and retail partners that included Target, Recycled Paper Greetings, Andrews McMeel Universal, Borders, Barnes & Noble, and Girl Scouts of America.

Christine has maintained a strong audience over the years with gallery exhibits of her mixed media work, her website and blog. In 2008 she released Ordinary Sparkling Moments: Reflections on Success and Contentment, a full color self-published book that combines her mixed media work and writing, all aimed at exploring the joys of finding wisdom in everyday life.  Her writing has been featured in Skirt! Magazine, The Wish Studio Blog, and This Ordinary Day, and she is is a member of the Squam Art Workshops teaching roster.  She was the keynote speaker at Virginia Tech’s Women in Leadership and Philanthropy Conference in June 2009 and her newly released line of inspirational wall art – licensed to Demdaco, Inc. – is off to a strong start, with new designs for a 2010 release already underway.

Christine’s art and writing gives viewers a peek into a variety of details from her life, including travels around the globe and memories shared with her grandma. Using materials as varied as acrylic paints, ink, coffee, mannequins, vintage photographs and other ephemera, Christine’s creations are full of color, texture and hidden stories.

Live Your Vision with Christine Mason Miller
  • How are you living your vision?
    • It is in the smaller details – being able to live in Los Angeles without a car, having writing deadlines on my calendar, creating a family with my husband.
  • When working on an exciting project (one that you are passionate about), how do you quiet your thoughts and shift your mind-set in order to do “other” things?
    • It is sometimes challenging; if I lived alone I would likely be a workaholic.  But with a home, a husband and a busy social life, there are always plenty of other things that need to get done (and that I enjoy doing), so those other facets of my life help keep me balanced.
  • What are three to five lessons you have learned during your personal journey?
    • Trust my gut.
    • Be true to my word.
    • Do my best.
    • Remember what really matters.
    • Stay in the present.
  • How do you acknowledge and celebrate personal success?
    • With my husband, family and friends – very often with champagne!
  • What is an “ordinary sparkling moment?”
    • I actually had a few moments this morning when I saw clearly that is what I was experiencing.  My husband and I had just come downstairs – me in my yoga pants, he in his suit for work.  He was at our kitchen table reading the paper while I was making coffee and emptying the dishwasher.  We weren’t talking much, just doing what we do every single morning.  I loved recognizing that this was our routine, this was how we were able to begin our day everyday:  Together, with coffee, breakfast, our newspapers and the sun streaming through our windows.
  • What are your unfiltered thoughts on “failure?”
    • I’ve had plenty of failures, and my perspective of them has evolved into something like this:  First of all, when I think of a new idea, project or venture, the first place my mind goes is to what it would look like if that idea succeeded.  Even though I’ve failed plenty, I go immediately towards success as a possible outcome, because I have also learned that sometimes it is wise to be careful about what I wish for.  We attach these labels to success and failure – one is good and the other is bad – but in fact both have positive and negative elements, and both have the potential to help us grow, evolve and create a more meaningful, authentic life.
    • When I think about failure, I try not to attach a label to it.  If I try something and it doesn’t work, that is not a reflection on my character, integrity or talent.  It is simply one step along my journey, and my job in those situations is to glean whatever lessons they have to offer and take them with me on my next endeavor.
  • Complete the prompts in bold.
    • I know that I am loved.
    • I want to …
      • This week: Begin a new painting (something I have been resisting for weeks.)
      • This month: Stay centered as the holiday season goes into full swing.
      • In this lifetime: Love as deeply and openly as possible, no matter what.
    • I don’t know how much longer I have on this earth, so I’m going to savor every minute of it.
    • I am an artist.
  • What is something you haven’t been asked in an interview that you wish you were asked?
    • No one has asked me how much money I make as an artist, and while this is not a question I wish I was asked, I mention this to make a point – that our society places a tremendous value on incomes, salaries and financial ambition, and I think it is easy to go down a road where we equate our success with our balance sheets.  I have no problem with financial ambition and success at all, but I also try to remind myself that at the end of the day, that isn’t what is going to truly touch people, inspire them and encourage them to take a leap of their own.  No one cares how much money I’ve made, and while I am proud of the financial goals I’ve reached, what I’ve learned is that there is so much more to success, to being inspiring and to creating a meaningful creative career.
  • What is an inspirational tip you would like to share with readers?
    • Your creative idea, dream, longing?  Do it!  Your 85-year old self will be so happy you went for it.

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Thank you so much, Christine, for opening up your heart and sharing your personal thoughts on A Beautiful Ripple Effect!

The first “Living Your Vision” interview wouldn’t be complete without an incredible giveaway! One lucky reader will receive a limited edition signed hardcover of Ordinary Sparkling Moments. Enter the giveaway by responding to Christine’s question below in the comments section!

Respond by Tuesday December 15th at 11:59 pm EST. Recipient will be chosen via random.org and announced on Wednesday December 16th.

What does your 85-year old self want you to do? Try? Experience? See?

– Updated 12.16.09 –

Congratulations to Rachel — the recipient of the Limited Edition Signed Hardcover of Ordinary Sparkling Moments!!

Tuesday Treasures

December 8th, 2009 | 3 Comments »

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“Tuesday Treasures” is such a fun uplifting title that I couldn’t resist using it! Happy Tuesday! I have a few little treasures to share with you today. I hope they add a little sparkle to your day!

  • Just Posted
    • A personal introduction video on Spring (in the video, I read the introduction to Perseverance for the very first time aloud!)
    • 17 Ways to Savor the Wealth Around You on Psychology Today (includes a link to a copy of my free e-book, 10 Ways to Discover and Treasure the Beauty of Now)
  • Unconventional Success Series
    • First interview in the series will go live tomorrow, Wednesday December 9th! Can’t wait to share the incredible individual with you :)!
  • Giveaway: 2 Flip Cams!
    • Enter to win a Flip Cam by tomorrow evening, Wednesday December 9th! Read the details on the announcement post!

What are you treasuring today?

How Important is Your Mind-Set?

November 4th, 2009 | 10 Comments »

PowerfulWhat allows some people to eclipse the realm of the possible? Are they really the exceptional ones, or is there more to the equation than mere luck?

Unconventional success redefines what we consider possible—it’s success that has not yet been defined by others. Essentially, this means clearing a path through uncharted territory.

The first step in achieving anything is defining your vision. As a start, begin by asking this powerful question: “What do I want?”

Of course, it’s all too easy to gloss over that kind of question without giving it much thought. But without knowing the answer—your answer—you probably won’t get too far.

Once you have a vision of what you want, the next step you’ll need to take is one that leads you toward finding courage. Courage is associated with bravery and overcoming fear, and in order to discover that courage, we must give ourselves permission to choose a different path, to be unconventional.

We talked about clearing a path, so finding the one you’ll take is entirely up to you; there is no specific path that you must follow. Broadly speaking, the course you chart boils down to your mind-set. In his truly remarkable book, The Pursuit of Perfect, Tal Ben-Shahar discusses why one’s mind-set is so critical with regard to his or her path. I’ve read and studied much of the research Ben-Shahar mentions and agree completely with his discussion on a fixed versus a growth mind-set. Although the notion is identified by two different labels, be sure to remember that individuals change constantly. We may have different mind-sets depending on the situation, but we may also have one that exists along a continuum between “fixed” and “growth.” Here, the golden nugget is that nothing is set in stone!

Very simply put, a fixed mind-set is the belief that our abilities (such as intelligence or personality) don’t change. On the other hand, a growth mind-set is the belief that our abilities do change. [An aside: Considering the paragraph above, what type of mind-set do I appear to have at this point in time?]

For a person with a fixed mind-set, hard work is threatening, it indicates that her abilities are limited and that, by extension, she is, too. After all, if she were gifted and talented, then she wouldn’t need to work. Not wanting to appear deficient, and given her belief that nothing can be done to remedy a deficiency, she constantly feels the pressure to prove to herself and to others how smart, competent, and perfect she already is.

The experience of a person with a growth mind-set is radically different. For her, hard work is not only necessary, it is also fun and exciting; she enjoys the journey because, rather than trying to prove herself constantly, her primary focus is learning, developing, and realizing her potential. In addition to being happier, a person with a growth mind-set is more persistent in her efforts and is therefore more likely to succeed. -Tal Ben-Shahar

Think About It:

Do you feel like you can relate to either or both of these mind-sets?

Deciding to create change in your life is a huge step in itself, but we often underestimate the amount of strength it takes to turn that decision into action. It can be incredibly scary to know what you want even while you fear achieving that outcome. It’s definitely a very unsettling feeling, and if we let it take control of us, then change is unlikely to happen anytime soon. Here, it comes down to your mind-set overpowering your fears and feelings.

Gregory Berns, a leading neuroscientist, says that innovative thinkers (like the creative geniuses who make the impossible possible) are able to create extraordinary change because, “They overcome mental barriers that stop most of us cold.”

Sounds simple, right? Okay, well maybe not simple, but certainly possible.

Now let’s circle back to our focus: How important is your mind-set? If you want to create your own path to success, your mind-set is critically important.

A New Series Focused on the Journey of Unconventional Success

This topic is my passion, and it’s my goal to help you believe in yourself and your ability to create change. To do this, I am beginning a weekly series focused on the journey—the how—of unconventional success. Each week, we’re going to ask questions that reveal information about the “how” versus the final destination. Next week, I’ll launch the series and provide a way for you to ask specific questions.


If you would be interested in sitting in the hot seat or know someone who would be interested, please e-mail me: carolynblog (at) me (dot) com

… or connect with me on twitter: @clrsimple2

Unconventional Success Mini-Series

What do you want?

August 5th, 2009 | 7 Comments »

Single red tulip in field of yellow tulips. The first step in achieving anything is defining your vision. As a start, begin with this powerful question: “What do I want?”

It’s easy to skip over that kind of question without giving it much thought. But without having knowledge of the answer, well, you probably won’t get too far.

The Key: Focus on “What” not “How”

Begin by acknowledging that it’s okay and actually quite liberating to accept not knowing exactly what you want right now. I don’t think we ever know with certainty what we want in all areas of our lives; after all, life is an evolving process. At the same time, since it is an unfolding journey of personal exploration, it will definitely require a bit of personal effort. At this point, the “how” doesn’t matter since worrying about it only weakens your attitude.

Trust Yourself

You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”

-Steve Jobs

Do you trust yourself enough to think deeply about your own wants? In fact, it’s critical that you do; otherwise, you can become trapped in feelings of guilt and other forms of rationalization about what you believe you should be doing—rather than what you want to be doing.

Recently, I decided to trust myself. In fact, I needed to make that decision so that I could continue to move forward. At the time, I was stuck and couldn’t understand why; something was holding me back. When I realized what was stunting my growth, I trusted myself enough to take immediate action. I had kept a journal for at least a year and was still writing in it each evening. It held so many sad memories that I could feel them drain the energy from me each time I picked it up. And so last week, I took the journal out and simply threw it away. Although it held so much of my life within its pages, it was just paper. Fortunately, the important moments remain within me. I haven’t looked back or regretted my actions since that day. Instead, tossing that journal out has allowed me to create a fresh beginning: a beautiful start for a new journey.

Find What You Love

It is never too late or too early to explore our lives; indeed, personal learning should never end, especially when it has to do with what you want in life. Of course, what you learn doesn’t necessarily need to be something radical—there are no rules or expectations.

When I began to explore what I wanted, I needed some type of anchor or cue to keep me motivated. For me, it was a little Post-it note on which I’d written, “Make me happy.” I stuck it in the middle of a big inspiration board and began to think more and more about what makes me happy. At the time, it was a very novel question.

In an unforgettable commencement speech, Steve Jobs discussed what he believes to be most important to his personal and quite unconventional success. What’s his secret to success? Finding what he loves.

You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.”

So be curious and follow your intuition. Let the process unfold naturally; you don’t need to force it along. Explore questions and new ideas, and as you do, trust yourself, believe, and embrace uncertainty. Get out your brushes and paint a life you love.

10 Inspirational People Who Have Redefined the Road to Success (Part Two)

July 27th, 2009 | 6 Comments »

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma—which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

- Steve Jobs

I believe that each person has the potential to transform the lives of others. Often, we can change the life of someone else without even knowing it and those who do so are the true change-makers. Now, I’ll introduce you to four people who have transformed my life, helped me redefine “success,” and nudged me toward the path I need to take to get there.

–> Redefining Courage: From Living Authentically to Giving Wholeheartedly

Brene Brown ImageBrené Brown, Ph.D.

Authenticity is a daily practice. Living authentically means cultivating the courage to be emotionally honest, to set boundaries, and to allow ourselves to be vulnerable; exercising the compassion that comes from knowing that we are all made of light and darkness, strength and struggle; and nurturing the connection and sense of belonging that can only happen when we let go of who we are supposed to be and embrace who we are. Authenticity demands wholehearted living and loving—even when it’s hard, even when it hurts, and especially when we are wrestling with the shame and fear of ‘not being enough.’ Mindfully practicing authenticity during our most soul-searching struggles is how we invite grace, joy, and gratitude into our lives.”

- Brené Brown, Ph.D.

When I first read this quote, I remember feeling as if someone was inside my head, someone who knew exactly what I needed to hear at that very moment. Of course, as a psychology student, I had read countless times about being authentic and about the concept of authenticity but still, it never really seemed to click. Somehow, I related to this quote, and it became a guidepost along my journey of self-discovery.

Through Brené Brown’s book, I thought It Was Just me (but it isn’t): Telling the Truth about Perfection, Inadequacy, and Power, and her blog, “Ordinary Courage,” I have gained the knowledge that allows me to make the conscious choices that reflect my decision to choose authenticity.

Some examples of choosing authenticity:

  • Learn to say no. Stand up for yourself even if doing so means the consequences may not be so great.
  • Remind yourself that you hold the key to your dreams. Own your dreams! No one else can decide how your life should be lived.
  • Choose to protect your character rather than your image. You can’t control how others view you, but you can control how you view yourself.

What I admire most about Brené Brown is her unique ability to combine her passions with her profession. She is a mom, researcher, writer, and activist, and she certainly doesn’t fit into the typical box fashioned for any of these careers—and Brené is more than happy with that. You can read her full story here.

Follow Brené on Twitter!

Jackie Waldman ImageJackie Waldman

We all have something to give, no matter what. That’s the courage-the courage to step out of our own lives, even when we think we can’t, and step into the life of someone else. When we find the courage to give to someone else, sharing what we love to do and making a difference for someone else, that’s when we can begin to live joyfully, no matter what.”

- Jackie Waldman

I am grateful to know Jackie. In fact, Jackie is even more caring than any story can possibly portray. She volunteers her time to help select the recipients of CCC’s college scholarship program.

And why is Jackie so unbelievable? Here’s a little snippet…

Jackie’s Story (read the full text on her Web site):

Jackie was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis (MS) in 1991. Afterward, she went through a period of depression before deciding that she could make a difference in others’ lives.

“She thought about how she was treating herself and those she loved, and she realized that true survival was not whether her legs worked. ‘True survival was about how we treat each other—about love and acts of kindness, no matter what.’ Suddenly, her pity party ended…Eager to share the power of giving, she decided to compile a book of true stories to inspire others to have the courage to give. Her first book, The Courage to Give, tells 30 stories of people who have had something happen to them physically and/or emotionally, yet when they started helping others, their lives changed miraculously.”

Jackie is also on Oprah’s Angel Network and writes an article called, Begin with Yourself. I love how Jackie discusses volunteering as something that must begin within rather than being an activity that is purely extrinsic. In short, she is an utterly remarkable woman, who is changing the world through her own experience with MS—her words, her books, and most importantly, her actions.

–> Creating a Life You Love: From Creating the Space to Grow to Awakening Your Inner Muse

Aby Garvey ImageAby Garvey

When it comes to space and creating a sense of calm, Aby Garvey dominates the domain. I “met” Aby a couple of years ago, and she has really helped me simplify my life—and get more done at the same time. The most important lesson I’ve learned thus far is to prioritize. It’s an ongoing process, which is much more valuable than just “organizing stuff.” Re-prioritizing my life has allowed me to create the space I need to grow and explore new areas in my life. Without creating space, that kind of exploration is almost impossible.

But I’m even more inspired by what Aby has created in the past several years: an online community unlike any other. Through her online workshops, individuals create bonds that transform their inner lives and resolve their external clutter. The workshops are true transformation classes, which essentially is the process of unraveling the layers of your life that may have created those piles you’ve placed so neatly (or not) on your desk. Aby’s classes are wonderful experiences, and it is a true joy when I’m able to participate in them.

I could devote an entire series of posts to Aby but for now, I’ll leave you with a link that will take you to Simplify 101. That way, you’ll have the chance to begin your own discovery of Aby and Simplify 101.

Follow Aby on Twitter!

Jennifer Lee ImageJennifer Lee

I found Jenn via The Next Chapter: Wreck This Journal. She was an A+ wrecker, so I spent some time on her Web site. Soon enough, I was simply in awe. One statement I found on her site really spoke to me: “walking the talk.” In short, it was a huge wake-up call. In one night, I reflected more deeply about my life than ever before. Jenn utilizes creative methods to explore and nourish the inner you, and the approach is wonderful for people like me who tend to get stuck in their analytical left-brain mode. Engaging the right brain is quite powerful and really can add incredible balance to your life.

Notably, Jenn found success through unconventional methods. It’s inspiring to know that there are countless incredible people in the world who simply did not decide at age three what they were going to do in life. Sometimes “growing up” is a long and winding road, but that’s called evolving as a person. And personally, that long, winding road sounds a lot more interesting than a straight path from A to B!

More about Jenn:
“Jennifer Lee is the founder of Artizen Coaching. As a certified coach, artist, writer and yogini, she inspires you to awaken your inner muse and to live life in full color…. By incorporating creative elements like visualization, movement, collage and book arts, she helps you tap into your greatest potential and live your most authentic, full life. Jennifer is known for her creative, compassionate, collaborative and intuitive style as well as for being focused on accountability and delivering results.”

You can read more about Jenn’s personal journey on her Web site and blog!

Follow Jenn on Twitter!

Future Directions
Unconventional Success is quite an interesting topic – full of inspiration! We began this little mini-series with the 3 Essential Ingredients for Creating Unconventional Success. And now, we have looked at 10 individuals who have redefined the path to success (see Part One for the first six individuals). These posts establish a strong foundation for better understanding unconventional success.

We’ll return back to this topic in a couple of weeks and explore how to use this foundation to start thinking about the “what” – what do you want to create, what are your dreams? Then, it’s on to ingredient two of creating unconventional success: redefining the “how” to get what you want!

Get excited! Remember, nothing is required other than a willingness to reach deep inside yourself to find the strength you need to follow your dreams.

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-> 3 Essential Ingredients for Creating Unconventional Success
-> 10 Inspirational People Who Have Redefined the Road to Success (Part One)
-> 10 Inspirational People Who Have Redefined the Road to Success (Part Two)

10 Inspirational People Who Have Redefined the Road to Success (Part One)

July 23rd, 2009 | 11 Comments »

We all have journeys into uncharted territories that we must take alone. But I have learned we aren’t necessarily alone. No matter how dark the moment, brave souls have already walked the same path. The purpose of this book is to shine a light on the path each of us takes.” – me, in Perseverance

Growing up, I watched in awe as my parents lived passionately every single day, using their passion to work tirelessly for what they believed in. They were always learning new things about the world and themselves. Most importantly, they never gave up when things got tough. My parents were the first to demonstrate to me that there is no one way road to success.

Individuals who have found unconventional paths to success and redefined what it takes to be successful have had a profound impact on my ability to create and live an unconventional life – defined primarily by passion. The road has never been easy; yet, giving up has never been an option.

The purpose of this post is to redefine what you recognize as the realm of the possible. To do this, I will introduce you to individuals I consider to be modern-day pioneers. Hopefully, they will open your eyes to an entire world of possibilities and motivate you to create your own unconventional success, to overcome feeling intimidated by the daunting task of pursuing a personal dream.

I wrote down the names of these individuals long before the idea for this post took its final shape since each of them have helped me realize that there is indeed light on the path I am taking—even though it often feels scary and lonely. I look to these individuals for courage and inspiration on a regular basis. I hope that you find inspiration through these individuals as well.

In this post, I will discuss six individuals organized within three different categories.

{It may look like a lot of information to read, so take a deep breathe and read at your own pace. Check out links during downtime – for inspiration and motivation!}

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Josh Sommer

Josh SommerI met Josh while I was an undergraduate at Duke University. After I met him and his mom, Simone Sommer, my life has never been the same. Before meeting for the first time at dinner, I knew very little about Josh and expected a quick meal, nice conversation, and a definite conclusion. Of course, fate had different plans that night. Clearly, Josh and I were united for a much greater purpose. Ultimately, Josh would become one of my closest friends. What follows is a short bio to give you a better understanding of why Josh redefines what is possible and inspires me to extend past the limits of my comfort zone. For those who received an advanced release copy of Perseverance, you’ll be surprised to notice an addition to the book: the first page of the book has been changed; it is written by Josh Sommer.

Josh Sommer is the executive director of the Chordoma Foundation, an organization he co-founded with his mother, Dr. Simone Sommer, after he was diagnosed with a clival chordoma in 2006. Josh believes that patients should play an active role in facilitating treatments for their own conditions, and that the patients themselves represent a largely untapped source of funding, energy, and know-how in the treatment development process.

After finishing his junior year in May 2008, Josh was awarded a two-year Echoing Green fellowship for social entrepreneurs. Subsequently, he took a leave of absence from Duke to lead the Chordoma Foundation along with his mom. To complement his work for the foundation, Josh has joined Duke’s Program on Global Health and Technology Access as a Fellow in Strategic Philanthropy and Health. Further, Josh continues to participate in research in Dr. Kelley’s lab and helps coordinate collaborations with a network of chordoma researchers at other institutions worldwide.

You can read this article/watch the video clip for a quick overview; I’m sure he’ll leave you speechless. A link to the overview of Josh’s story is here.

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Marian Wright Edelman

Marian Wright EdelmanAt my sister’s graduation from the University of Miami, Marian Wright Edelman gave the keynote speech. It was the first time I had ever heard her life story. From her biography:

Mrs. Edelman, a graduate of Spelman College and Yale Law School, began her career in the mid-60s when, as the first black woman admitted to the Mississippi Bar, she directed the NAACP Legal Defense and Educational Fund office in Jackson, Mississippi. In l968, she moved to Washington, D.C., as counsel for the Poor People’s Campaign that Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. began organizing before his death. She founded the Washington Research Project, a public interest law firm and the parent body of the Children’s Defense Fund. For two years, she served as the Director of the Center for Law and Education at Harvard University and in 1973 began CDF.

I found the speech awe-inspiring, and it left me—as it did most of the audience—speechless. You can watch online the speech Mrs. Edelman gave at Whittier College, and you can read a short excerpt from the speech here. Additionally, you can read Mrs. Edelman’s “Child Watch” column every Monday on the Huffington Post.

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Chris Guillebeau

Chris GuillebeauI “met” Chris Guillebeau via twitter and realized immediately that I had no choice but to check out what he was doing. How could I not? After all, the name of his Web site, and the common thread that links together his incredible ventures is The Art of Non-Conformity. Once there, I read the title to his free PDF: “A Brief Guide to World Domination.” I have to admit that I was more than a bit wary at first. The concept of “World Domination” is indeed somewhat lofty—but then I read the guide. Through his writing, Chris has redefined world domination and serves as a personal example of someone who walks the talk. Surprisingly, his manifesto has been read by more than 100,000 people in 60 countries. Talk about world domination!

The essence of Chris’ philosophy on World Domination:

Quoted from Chris’s site:

(1) You don’t have to live your life the way other people expect you to.

(2) You can do good things for yourself and help other people at the same time.

(3) There is usually more than one way to accomplish something.

(4) If you don’t decide for yourself what you want to get out of life, someone else will probably end up deciding for you.

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Leo Babauta

Leo BabautaLeo Babauta is the author of a recently published, best-selling book, “The Power of Less,” and the wildly popular blog, “Zen Habits,” which was named a top 25 blog by Time Magazine and has more than 125,000 unique subscribers.

Leo has become incredibly successful through his authenticity, creativity, and a lot of hard work. He wasn’t an overnight success and talks openly on his blog about personal issues, such as exercise and living frugally. It’s very easy to relate to Leo and his strong, thought-provoking posts. He places great value in the quality of his posts and doesn’t sacrifice quality for quantity. The blog’s design also reflects his strong belief in the power of less: the blog is dedicated primarily to content and saves room for just one ad. Nor has Leo sacrificed his personal values for professional success—something most people similarly affected struggle with on a regular basis. His most recent publication is sure to be read by most of the online community: “The Essential Motivation Handbook,” which is a collaboration between Leo and Eric Hamm of the blog, “Motivate Thyself.”

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Christine Mason Miller

Christine Mason MillerIn December 2008, I opened a free account on Wordpress to begin a personal blog. At the time, I had just received my copy of Christine Mason Miller’s book, “Ordinary Sparkling Moments” and had read a few passages before I felt compelled to begin writing. This was a huge step for me, and it marked a passage in my life. I was going through a difficult period at the time, and this book literally became the catalyst for changing my life, embracing my difficulties, and knowing that I would emerge stronger because of the experience. My first post, written on December 18, 2008, is entitled: Ordinary Sparkling Moments. I wrote the post, clicked submit, and began my personal blog journey. In fact, the title of my blog, A Beautiful Ripple Effect, is taken from Christine’s book, and captures the purpose of this blog as well as this new series of posts on unconventional success and redefining what is possible.

When we focus our energy towards constructing a passionate, meaningful life, we are tossing a pebble into the world, creating a beautiful ripple effect of inspiration. When one person follows a dream, tries something new or takes a daring leap, everyone nearby feels that energy, and before too long they are making their own daring leaps and inspiring yet another circle.”
- Christine Mason Miller

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Maya Angelou

Maya AngelouI have been a fan of Maya Angelou’s work since I began reading it in middle school. Still, it wasn’t until I entered Duke that Maya Angelou made a profound impact on my life through the power of her presence and words. I wrote about Maya Angelou in February in response to the following question posed by Michelle Ward: If you could have dinner with anyone, who would it be and why?

Maya Angelou. Read “why” below.

During my first week as a freshman at Duke, Maya Angelou spoke to my entire class, the Class of 2007. I was very close to the stage and could literally feel every single word she spoke. Every word had intention. I remember thinking to myself, one day… I want to have that impact on others. Her words — at that moment in my life — left a mark that set me on a path… a path that I wouldn’t even understand until years later. She was living and breathing each moment in and paying attention to the smallest details, such as eye contact and speech. She filled Duke’s Chapel with more energy than I ever experienced on other occasions. Just Maya Angelou alone on stage. She lit the spark inside of me — the little whisper that said… Wake Up! I heard her speak to each incoming freshman class until I graduated in 2007.

Today, when I listen to Maya Angelou speak, my eyes fill with tears, and those tears are filled with myriad emotions and memories. More than anything, I feel hopeful that I too will “sing.”

How incredible for one person to have such an impact on so many lives. It’s an impact that all too often goes unrecognized because it becomes so deeply rooted within each individual touched. I had to untangle the details to reveal the big picture and realize the etching Dr. Angelou created in my soul. It feels as if it’s always been there. But it hasn’t. Maya Angelou’s words remain with me — and often whisper in my thoughts to do that thing called “living” — even when the skies are filled with clouds and my heart feels heavy. I hear the powerful voice and remember that now — this moment (not the next moment) — is absolutely everything.

Future Directions

In my next post, I will focus on four more individuals. Then, we’ll look at how you can utilize the three essential ingredients with the lessons learned from the 10 pioneers featured. We’ll start thinking about the “what” – what do you want to create, what are your dreams? I’ll begin to weave in a bit of my personal story as well. If you have any specific questions, please let me know in the comments and I’ll try to address them!

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